Marriage

[Giff]

Would anyone here concidering to get married, even though it's clearly a religious ritual? I personally wouldn't.

[leo-rcc]

There is marriage the ritual, and marriage which gives you legal benefits. That is not something to dismiss off-hand.

[athoughtfulman]

I would definitely still consider it, even if only to consider it as a symbol of love for another.

I certainly don't think marriage is unique to religion.

[Kyuuketsuki]

I am married, what's more I got married in a church (C of E).

This, the fact that it was in a church, is something I deeply regret and hope to rectify this year when we retake our vows after 25 years with our 2 children as witnesses (and no preachers)

Kyu

[Tiberius]

I'd get married, but only in a state ceremony. Make it the most secular event I could.

[bozo]

Tried marriage and failed.
Story of my life!

[Rockthatpiano06]

I don't think I'm ever going to find anyone to marry, so probably not... lol. But besides that reason, traditionally marriage is something used to trap people into traditional roles. Since I'm not a traditional person, I don't see myself needing a silly ritual to validate love. love is love reguardless of that.

[Edwardo Piet]

Actually, I personally think it would take the meaning OUT of a relationship.. (I can't speak for everyone of course - I'm talking at least for me personally anyway).

If two people REALLY love each other they wouldn't need to make some legal and/or religious vow or 'promise' or whatever. They'd just stay together naturally.

I don't really think love is really a narrow rigid thing that can be planned and structured! I personally think marriage kind of undermines the whole thing.

Love is a spontaneous, natural thing - it seems kind of fake (and also actually very like religion I think) to reduce it to a kind of thing like "Yes I promise I definitely really will stay with your for ever and ever and EVER. I promise!".

If two people REALLY love each other naturally, truly and spontaneously - they wouldn't need to make a rigid 'vow' or 'promise' - if they truly love each other - they'll just stay together naturally anyway.

I think marriage can be the glue that can hold two people together that actually aren't so serious that they'd stay together so long if they really loved each other that much... - but WEREN'T married.

And if they really love each other enough to stay together their whole lives - what's the point in making the vow as if it adds more meaning? I think it's more meaningful to stay together naturally and truly - without having to make a legal 'promise' or whatever...

And if it's done just for legal issues then I personally find that very lame and shallow/low and taking the meaning out of things again. But if it really matters that much to whoever does it just for that reason - then it's obviously none of my business.

EvF

[fr0d0]

traditionally marriage is something used to trap people into traditional roles. Since I'm not a traditional person, I don't see myself needing a silly ritual to validate love. love is love reguardless of that.

I agree. I think the promise is important. The commitment to each other. I hate the idea of relationships that don't have that. At any moment either partner can walk out.. it doesn't support 'family'. I had a mate who always used to say marriage is about babies. I didn't like that at the time but I see the sense of it now. If your intention is to make that sort of relationship then commitments are very important. It follows on into your future together.

This is what marriage should be about IMO. Luckily my marriage started like that.

[Overmars]

i will never get married at the church, religious marriage is just a pretentious ritual