How the fuck is there a statute of limitations for rape in New York?

[Minimalist]

Here's a thought...

And like most of your thoughts dripshit it is worthless.

[The Grand Nudger]

I should have reported. Given who he knew, who I knew and the threats, that pretty much stopped me from saying anything.

If you had, even 20 years after the fact, it -could- still go to trial.  He could either apply for dismissal on the basis of the sol (which may not be applicable in his case, it doesn't mean what many people think it does, and would be reviewed by a judge), or..he could choose to defend himself and in doing so, waive any -potential- protection that an sol offers.

Opting for the sol waiver is often seen as a tacit admission of guilt in civil court. You can be found innocent, or not be prosecuted at all, and still end up getting hammered.

It's never too late. That's not to say that a judge couldn't take a look at the case and decide that it would have been difficult to prosecute the next day, for example, and grant that protection. But maybe you'd get lucky, and the guys a complete douchnozzle who can't help but want to "clear his name"...still.....chances of a conviction are notably low.

[Joods]

I've put it behind me. I don't even know if that man is still alive. He was 15 years older than me and his own health was for shit. And really, I don't want to ever have to relive that moment again. The fact that I had to use it to make a point to an insensitive, arrogant, condescending member of this forum, was nearly just as bad as having to go through it the first time.

[The Grand Nudger]

Understandable.

[Drich]

You cannot possibly be serious.

There could be an unknown number of underlying reasons why someone doesn't report being raped for days, weeks, months or even YEARS. They include:

Threats from their rapist.

Blackmail.

Shame and guilt.

Being completely alone.
PTSD.

Feelings that no one will believe or understand them.

Depending on when the rape happened: No DNA evidence.

The list goes on and on.

Obviously, you have never been to a rape-crisis center or a DV center. Nor have you ever had to deal with such a thing. Surely, some common sense would tell you that just because someone doesn't report a rape doesn't mean that it never happened.

If it happened then follow the procedure and report it in the alotted 5 year time span in the state of NY.

I was raped when I was 25 years old. I never reported it. Why? Because I was threatened. I knew my rapist. My rapist knew where I lived. He also knew that I had an infant with special needs and significant health problems at the time. He threatened my child as well. Was I terrified? Fuck yes I was. This asshole had a popular position within the community. I was a single mother raising a special needs child. No one saw it happen. His word against mine. He befriended me five months prior to the rape happening. Made friends with MY friends. He told me he would have more character witnesses on his side than I'd know what to do with.

Why were you only raped once?

If dude knew you were scarred into silence why did he never return?

If he returned why didn't that force you to act/report it?

So no. Fuck you. It's not always as cut and dry as YOU think it is. Your post above just goes to show the sheer amount of ignorance you seem to have over such things.

actually it is. occasionally you get a snow flake as you claim to be, but it is far more likely that some nut job 1/2 way want to have sex or thought they would get more out of it (cosby) but got left holding the bag/walk of shame one night stand, then decide they can cash in later because again while you can prove the act you can not prove intent. Which again is where time comes in. Given enough of it (say 5 years) if it is not reported by the consent either pre, during, or after the act (by your own inaction) is given.

In action in the face of evil is the same as permission.

Did you never ask yourself what about the next girl? Or what if the last girl had said something... would you have been raped?

[FatAndFaithless]

I always think "There's no way Drich could possibly say something that would make my opinion of him get any worse."

Well, he's shown me how wrong I was.

[Drich]

Here's a thought...

IF it takes a woman or man waits 5 years to report a rape... it wasn't.

Here's a thought...

You have no fucking clue about the psychological effects of abuse.

But hey, keep talking.  There might be a few people here that have yet to be convinced you're an uncaring monster.

while the later is true (the moster bit) I am well aware of abuse and how it can be used to control people. I also know how to work myself from it. allowing someone to pity themselves and wallow in their 'instance' of it, creates victims. If a 'victim' ever wants control of their life back, they must learn to focus and channel themselves into being something other than a victim.. Anger can work for a while but ultimately leads back down to the path of victim hood once one burns themselves out.

If anyone wants to reclaim themselves then they need to learn to identify themselves apart from what happened. This starts by what I did by asking questions concerning this a-hole's other victims and how her in actions could have realistically gotten some other girl raped. This takes the sigma off the victim and obliges them to act... But if the goal here is to be a victim, and to self center and shut down, then this effort will be met by resistance...

Unfortunatly the popular culture prizes it's victims, and when some people rightfully obtain victim hood they seek to go no further. If you find a person like this, then the best thing is to pay them their due and move on to try and help someone who wants it.

[Jesster]

And the asshat of the year award goes to Drich. Huh. I thought Donald Trump would get that one, but someone has outdone him.

[Drich]

I've put it behind me. I don't even know if that man is still alive. He was 15 years older than me and his own health was for shit. And really, I don't want to ever have to relive that moment again. The fact that I had to use it to make a point to an insensitive, arrogant, condescending member of this forum, was nearly just as bad as having to go through it the first time.

Seriously??

You by your own word don't seek justice for yourself or anyone else, yet I'm the bad guy for pointing out the truth?

That you can't prove intent the day after, let alone 5 years after other than to say, why has it taken so long? unless one party is seeking to defame another... Or do you simply not understand that this happens?

[thesummerqueen]

Drich, it's not often I get driven to being this way, but you're a dick.

None of what you said was called for. At all. Neither was the tone.