I called a friend who is a believer...

[Godscreated]

---

I gave you some things to explain and you ignored them, you just said you stopped believing. No one stops anything with out making some decisions along the way and those choices are part of the choice for disbelief. By the way you didn't have a Christian life you were living a lie, a lie you concocted. When a Christian (one who knows Christ) tells me they have deconverted but know God exists then I believe them, they knew yet decided to leave the faith, read scripture this is there. 


You're correct nothing could change what I believe. Now I believe I asked you to provide evidence for your disbelief before you asked these questions, I believe first things first, what ever you have to say wouldn't necessarily change my response to your questions. I would like for this to be a friendly conversation and hope you do. I'm finished answering the post of others because they are being hostile and I want let a gang butt into this conversation.

GC

---

I don't think you know what friendly conversation is.

What makes you say that. I've done nothing to you, except to tell you what I see and you know what, you've agreed with some of what I've said.

You just told me that I've been living a lie that I, myself, concocted.  This is true, but not in the sense that you're implying.  I'm sure that I did live a lie, but I'm convinced that you are also, though you are likely too stubborn to ever let yourself see it.  None the less, I'm going to be patient with you because I'm interested in seeing where this goes.

Then in what sense do you think I'm implying you were living a lie when you thought you were a Christian. If you think I'm living a lie you need to give me some evidence. I'm interested too, that's why I started this in the first place and have continued even when you've been somewhat harsh.

What do you want me to explain that I haven't?  I went back through the thread and can't really find any specific questions, only assumptions and accusations.  Are you wanting me to re-explain why I'm no longer a believer?  Fine, for all the good it will do.

First let me say that I fully appreciate your position, having been there myself.  Christians can't accept that someone left the faith because they stopped believing in God.  In order for their world to make sense, the person exiting has got to have an ulterior motive.  Either they become atheists because they can't reconcile their wild appetite for sin with the reality of eternal damnation or otherwise they are just people who never had a legit experience with God in the first place and were just pretending all along.  I get all that.

 

I have no problem with your reasoning or anyone else, I have a problem with those who leave telling me my knowledge of God can't be real because they left the faith, because they never made a connection with God. I have and it's as real as you are, if you were in my shoes you would not be able to deny God truthfully. Believe this if I were not 100% certain of what I know I wouldn't be here, I would have run like a scared rabbit long ago.

What brought me to the realization that I didn't believe? 

Doubt.  Doubts caused me to question.  Questions caused me to research.  Research brought me to knowledge.  Knowledge turned a few nagging questions into a dozen or more nagging questions.  Still, I rationalized it all away for a while.  I told myself that God is Truth and Truth is God, so there's no need to hide from reality.

This is a mistake truth can never be God, everything good is because of God, God is truth, love, compassion, caring, salvation and ect. Those things I just mentioned are not who God is, they exist because of God, period. God has always been and nothing good exist without Him. God is and has always been complete even before the creation, He doesn't need us or anything else God has existed forever in complete harmony with himself. These things mean God is the reality.

 I said that contradictions only seemingly existed because of things that we didn't understand yet.  But, I began to question my subjective experience too.  What was there to lose?  I had no desire to lie to myself.   Again, God is Truth and Truth is God, right?  All I wanted was to find out what was really True, and my conscience would not allow me to stop that search just because I might find something inconvenient.  I began to reason out my beliefs and found more and more things that just didn't make sense to me.  It was like trying to fit the square peg in the round hole.

You were not the first one to go through this kind of doubt, I've known many Christians who have, I'm one of them. What makes me so different from you then, I kept seeking God's guidance. I know very few Christians who haven't tried to fit the square peg in the round hole, it's called keeping the faith and trusting God to reveal the thing we need to continue on, one needs to want to grow in God until the time He reveals himself in a way you can no longer deny He is real, it took me years, but when He did, it was in a big way, why because I wanted it with an extreme desire.

I stopped believing because I no longer believed.  It just dawned on me.  There was no "choice".  It was like waking up from one of those dreams where you immediately want to go back to sleep and pick up where you left off, but the longer you lay there trying to get back to sleep, the more reality creeps in and reminds you how ridiculous your imagination can be.

You're comparing faith, belief and knowledge to a dream, seems to me you're trying to make God unreal. Seems to me you quit believing because you had made choices that lead you to disbelief in something you never believed in to start with. You can't quit believing in something you know to be real and it seems to me that's where you wanted to be but couldn't find your way and/or didn't take enough time to get there, remember the Bible teaches everything comes in God's timing not ours, took me a long time to understand this. 

It was like when Captain Kirk destroys the Nomad probe by repeating "Everything I say is a lie" and Nomad starts sparking and smoking and saying "Cannot compute.  Cannot compute.  Cannot compute.  Systems overloading."  Then, Nomad suddenly realizes how vulnerable he actually was right before he explodes.

Please tell me you are grown up enough not to live your life or make choices based on a fairy tale show, please?

Willing myself to continue believing what I didn't believe was simply impossible.  At that moment, it made as much sense to feign believing in God as it made sense to suddenly start believing in Poseidon.  I realized that my entire basis for belief was indoctrination from childhood, not on evidence or rationale or even choice.

Now we're getting down to the nitty gritty of what's going on. Let me say first I know people who have been in the Christian faith for much longer than you had and still they knew no more than you did, they had no evidence they lived in their faith stage or they still do. The ones I'm speaking of are still in church or have passed own, so I can't say what their eternal destination was or is. Do you remember the part of the NT were Paul says people of his time were still like babes, living on milk, he was referring to those who did not seek the relationship that leads to knowledge. Remember the parable Jesus taught about the sower of the seeds, unfortunately you are one of the examples of the seed that fell on unproductive ground. Now this ground is not of God's making, the ground Christ was speaking of is simply the heart, spirit, soul or whatever you want to name it, it's not physical it's spiritual. So what am I saying, you're blaming it on indoctrination, you should blame it on your own self for not searching out God and waiting on God's revelation to you, that is you should have waited in your faith and/or belief, knowledge would have come. Studying the scriptures is what you should have been relying on, God teaches us this through them, it's why He gave them to us. There more than stories and laws, they can become our real hope, the hope I'm speaking of here is that God will do as He said but it's up to us to be patient.

 Even in a subjective sense, there was nothing that I ever experienced as a believer that couldn't be explained naturally, and I witnessed nothing in 30+ years of Christianity to make me believe that anyone's subjective experience was anything more than a delusion brought on by hope, superstition and fear of the unknown.  I realized that religious belief demanded faith for a reason - because it's outrageous mythology.  I realized that religious denominations were all in disagreement over the message of the bible for a reason - because it has no cohesive message.  I realized that the bible was wrong about cosmology and biology for a very good reason - because it was written by "inspired" men.  It's no more inerrant than an inspired sermon or an inspired hymn or an inspired novel.

No wonder you came to these conclusions, subjective is not who God is, subjective experiences are part of the world not part of Christianity. God says in His word that we are to be holy as He is holy. We are to be objective and live within God's teachings not in the subjective world. Believing in the worlds view of cosmology and biology is making ideas into truths, there's no absolute proof of the big bang or evolution, did you know that scientists have been trying for over 40 years to prove dark matter in labs, guess what they are no closer than the day the idea came into existence. Try this one, dino DNA has been extracted from dinos that are supposedly many millions of years old, DNA can't last that long in the environment, so how come they have found this DNA, you tell me. You're trusting in man's ideas and not in God's truths.

I didn't immediately stop praying or doing religious things.  In fact, I prayed more seriously than I've prayed in a long time, because I didn't really want to believe that I had been deluded all that time, or that all of my family and friends are deluded.  But, I heard only silence.  I kept going to church with an open mind, leaving myself open to the possibility that something could be said that would bring me back.  Instead, everything I heard just seemed ridiculously absurd.  It's like I became a new person overnight.

You were and still are the same old person, only God can make someone a new person. You went into church seeking instant to have God revealed to you through people and how is it you could pray with sincerity when you were doubting God even exists. I've noticed you keep referring to religious things, when Christianity is a relationship, maybe it's this thing you have not done to find the truth. Trusting in God to answer in His time and trusting that God will answer is the start of the relationship. I've gone far beyond that because I wanted it I asked for it and gave myself to God to find the real knowledge and truth of God revealed by Him. If you feel free of God it may be that God has decided not to strive with you any longer, that He has called the Holy Spirit to no longer convict you and let you live your life as you wish, am I saying God has given up on you, no, I'm saying God wants you to see what life is like without Him, I've been there and it's a bad place to be. When I finial came back to Him I was ready for Him to make that difference in my life. So it's all up to you, you can walk the path you've chosen or you can walk a path God has chosen for you. Remember this I'm not looking down on you, how could I, I've walked your path, I'm trying to tell you that I know God's real and I have access to Him because of what Christ did for me almost two thousand years ago. I'm only trying to be honest with you.

GC