Not every pedophile is a rapist.

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I agree that the word has changed in meaning, to the point where you have to put "non-offending" in front of it to make it clear.

As far as I'm aware, it's a genuine psychological condition that involves attraction to pre-pubescent children, and it can't be helped or "switched off". I have nothing against it, and if one of my friends told me they were one, I'd think no less of them. Nor would I instantly assume they were a danger to anyone.

I think the demonisation of paedophiles and the bastardisation of the word has indeed forced most of them into secrecy. I don't believe this is for the best. I would prefer an honest and open society, where people can get the necessary help and support (from friends as well as professionally) without being ostracised. I think people are more likely to act when they are having to lead a secret life and feel entirely misunderstood. I find the idea that any particular paedophile can't control themselves around children is ridiculous. Statistically, it must be going on all the time. But of course, childrens' safety is very important, and I think having an overlap of several adults supervising them is the best way. This reduces the chances of any kind of harm coming to them, for whatever reason.