RE: I Walked Away From Christianity, but How do I Walk Away From My Family?
October 31, 2016 at 2:57 am
(This post was last modified: October 31, 2016 at 2:57 am by AceBoogie.)
to OP
None of us can make this decision for you. Not that you're necessarily looking for that.
I grew up in a family where there wasn't really any 'abuse' per se, but a lot of neglect and a lot of narcissistic emotional manipulation. A lot of, "You have to do this for me because I do so much for everyone in the family and no one ever helps me," type of stuff. A lot of bullshit that got really old as soon as I was grown enough to realize it for what it was,
I learned that family is not a right, it is a privilege. If being around your family causes you more harm than benefit... Maybe its time to cut that cord. I'm honestly not really close with anyone in my family, and you know what, that's okay with me.
I spent a lot of time saying, 'Yea family is super important to me,' because I thought you HAD to say that and you HAD to feel that way. Well you don't have to feel that way. You simply don't.
I hope you make whatever choice is best for you. Good luck.
Liife's too short to always spend your time with people who stress you out. Blood might be thicker than water but love is thicker than anything. Spend time with those that you love, not those that you tolerate because you think you have to.
None of us can make this decision for you. Not that you're necessarily looking for that.
I grew up in a family where there wasn't really any 'abuse' per se, but a lot of neglect and a lot of narcissistic emotional manipulation. A lot of, "You have to do this for me because I do so much for everyone in the family and no one ever helps me," type of stuff. A lot of bullshit that got really old as soon as I was grown enough to realize it for what it was,
I learned that family is not a right, it is a privilege. If being around your family causes you more harm than benefit... Maybe its time to cut that cord. I'm honestly not really close with anyone in my family, and you know what, that's okay with me.
I spent a lot of time saying, 'Yea family is super important to me,' because I thought you HAD to say that and you HAD to feel that way. Well you don't have to feel that way. You simply don't.
I hope you make whatever choice is best for you. Good luck.
Liife's too short to always spend your time with people who stress you out. Blood might be thicker than water but love is thicker than anything. Spend time with those that you love, not those that you tolerate because you think you have to.
“Love is the only bow on Life’s dark cloud. It is the morning and the evening star. It shines upon the babe, and sheds its radiance on the quiet tomb. It is the mother of art, inspirer of poet, patriot and philosopher.
It is the air and light of every heart – builder of every home, kindler of every fire on every hearth. It was the first to dream of immortality. It fills the world with melody – for music is the voice of love.
Love is the magician, the enchanter, that changes worthless things to Joy, and makes royal kings and queens of common clay. It is the perfume of that wondrous flower, the heart, and without that sacred passion, that divine swoon, we are less than beasts; but with it, earth is heaven, and we are gods.” - Robert. G. Ingersoll
It is the air and light of every heart – builder of every home, kindler of every fire on every hearth. It was the first to dream of immortality. It fills the world with melody – for music is the voice of love.
Love is the magician, the enchanter, that changes worthless things to Joy, and makes royal kings and queens of common clay. It is the perfume of that wondrous flower, the heart, and without that sacred passion, that divine swoon, we are less than beasts; but with it, earth is heaven, and we are gods.” - Robert. G. Ingersoll
