...And then there are the days He is silent.

[Drich]

Maybe it is you who has fooled himself into think that just because you dad beat on you are justified in hating someone forever.

Forgiveness is akin to respect, either of which must be earned rather than merely doled out on lame principle.

Ah.. no.

Forgiveness is a condition of the heart. it simply means one lets go any debt due them by the debtor/sinner.

You can do this and not respect the one you forgive. You simply let go what you think is owed you.