(July 28, 2017 at 4:55 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(July 28, 2017 at 4:20 pm)Brian37 Wrote: That is a great point. Far to often society sells shallow solutions like "just do it" and say horrible things like "what's your problem, buck it up".
I know my problems are genetic because I see the same behaviors in my two sisters and my older brother and even my cousin. I think it is horrible that far too many people vilify others with problems.
I suffered tremendously as a kid not understanding this. I blamed myself for not fitting in and that caused me horrible self loathing and I made myself a doormat trying to fit in. That was compounded by my my LD, depression and anxiety too.
You have to value yourself first. You will never be happy with others or be happy with what you can get, until you value yourself first. Once you are comfortable in your own skin, you will communicate well better with others and you wont stress the small stuff as much.
But again, as others have said, that is simply my personal point of view. Nobody here can replace an in person face to face professional.
I do wish you well CL.
Sounds like you've been through a lot of these same feelings of worthlessness that I have, and have been able to get out of it. I guess it takes a lot of mental strength to be able to turn things around and have a more positive outlook and positive self image.
I would not call it mental strength as much as I would call it now having more knowledge about those things. It is ok to be weak. It is how you deal with it, not that it happens.
And Shell also brought up something I had not thought of since it was a while ago, losing a baby is rough on anyone. Though it is not the same, the loss of my mom hurt too. Point being don't beat yourself up. Between the baby and now your husband leaving for training, that is a lot to deal with.
Just do yourself a favor, get help if you need to.
