RE: Low self esteem, feelings of worthlessness, and lack of purpose
July 29, 2017 at 2:21 am
(This post was last modified: July 29, 2017 at 3:05 am by Alex K.)
@C_L
It really pains me to see you describe yourself in such a cruel way. A dud, that's horribly wrong.
When I was between jobs, I had similar destructive feelings of lacking self-worth creep in, despite it being a relatively short time and having a family to take care of. I think having work is really unusually important psychologically in our society (and being a perfect mother, as well, so you get a double hit from societal expectations) . It doesn't have to be something super important or meaningful, only a little. If you serve pizza and made a few people feel welcome, that's better than those many jobs which make people feel miserable or exploit them. If you have the opportunity to take up a seemingly insignificant job like that in your new place, which doesn't feel wrong, I would do it.
I'm reminded of an interview with a former member of Scientology, Claire Headley. She describes how she has worked her ass off in the Scientology "Sea Org" for years with barely any sleep. When she and her husband escaped, she took a job as a pizza waitress and describes the exhilarating feeling to have a real down to earth job that serves other people in whatever fashion rather than working for a cult. I'm not saying that your life is anything like that of course, I only thought it offered an interesting perspective on how important psychologically it seems for us to work.
It really pains me to see you describe yourself in such a cruel way. A dud, that's horribly wrong.
When I was between jobs, I had similar destructive feelings of lacking self-worth creep in, despite it being a relatively short time and having a family to take care of. I think having work is really unusually important psychologically in our society (and being a perfect mother, as well, so you get a double hit from societal expectations) . It doesn't have to be something super important or meaningful, only a little. If you serve pizza and made a few people feel welcome, that's better than those many jobs which make people feel miserable or exploit them. If you have the opportunity to take up a seemingly insignificant job like that in your new place, which doesn't feel wrong, I would do it.
I'm reminded of an interview with a former member of Scientology, Claire Headley. She describes how she has worked her ass off in the Scientology "Sea Org" for years with barely any sleep. When she and her husband escaped, she took a job as a pizza waitress and describes the exhilarating feeling to have a real down to earth job that serves other people in whatever fashion rather than working for a cult. I'm not saying that your life is anything like that of course, I only thought it offered an interesting perspective on how important psychologically it seems for us to work.
The fool hath said in his heart, There is a God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.
Psalm 14, KJV revised edition
