Talking with guys I know who may know more about what the military reports to civilians, they may not be required to by statute. In this case, I'd say that there should be a way for that reporting to happen. If he got a BCD from the USAF for beating his family, that should weigh on his ability to possess any firearm. If there is a domestic disturbance where I live in California, the police may confiscate all the firearms in the home. There is a method for getting them back, but it costs money. In any event, he brought that discharge on himself.
If you get to thinking you’re a person of some influence, try ordering somebody else’s dog around.