Please help?

[Longhorn]

I do. I talk to him. I've told him most of what I wrote, many times. I don't know what else I could possibly say to him.

Maybe he cares about you and he's upset at himself (and at you) because he feels helpless about your situation and doesn't have a clue as to how he can help you.

This is true and he's said that. And I told him the specific things he was doing that weren't helping and told him what I feel would help. And he just sighed and kept doing more of the same.

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I'm sorry you're going through this.

I don't have much experience in your situation and don't know what clinical depression feels like. But I do know that it's difficult for people to understand depression or any other type of mental illness as a real illness rather than just an attitude problem. From what youre saying here, that seems to be his hang up - he just doesnt understand. Perhaps he wants to help you feel better but cant and so he feels frustrated? Men like to fix things. They feel powerless and bogged down when they just cant.

Don't blame yourself for anything or feel as though you are doing anything wrong. This is not your fault and not something you have control over. Maybe you're already doing this, but have you been regularly seeing a therapist for depression? It takes a toll on our relationships and getting treatment for it may be the best thing you can do.

Yeah, this is true. And I understand that. I've tried to tell him how to make this easier but he can't seem to go through with that.

I am not and in fact have never seen a therapist. I am not diagnosed either. I am not planning to see one. This isn't my life 24/7. It's just a bit of a rough time I've been having the past few days and I'm mostly dealing with it fine. Just sad is all.

Thank you all for your responses.