(January 8, 2018 at 2:20 pm)Longhorn Wrote:(January 8, 2018 at 2:18 pm)Mr.Obvious Wrote: Longhorn, I'm hesitant to give you my thoughts. Not because I don't want to help you, but because I don't know you well enough and definitely don't understand the situation fully.
I have to ask though: do you want to talk to him about all this?
I do. I talk to him. I've told him most of what I wrote, many times. I don't know what else I could possibly say to him.
I konw that sometimes I get frustrated listening to friends not because I don't want to listen, but because I want to "fix" the problem ... and they don't necessarily want that. They're not asking for advice, they just want to be heard. It may be that that is the source of his frustration, that he can't "fix" your problems.
If that is so, simply remind him that his ear is help enough. Let him know you appreciate his listening, too; and let him know that if it is too much to hear in one go that he can back out without repercussion.
