RE: Find out how much you're getting screwed...
April 7, 2018 at 9:23 am
(This post was last modified: April 7, 2018 at 11:06 am by LadyForCamus.)
(December 23, 2017 at 12:14 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(December 23, 2017 at 10:25 am)Rev. Rye Wrote: I meant that I hope your husband’s never reacted to “not in the mood” by doing anything worse than begging you until you say “okay.” Hopefully, he’s never resorted to physical force on you (nor you him).
Are you serious???
Lol, well if I need to say it, NO.
...Mr CL has never "physically forced himself" on me. Neither would he ever. Neither is that even close to morally permissable. Holy crap lol. And even "begging until the person gives in" isn't right either.
Yall draw some funny conclusions sometimes, sheesh, were not morally bankrupt monsters, you know lol.
What I said is that in catholicism its not right for a spouse to deny the other of sex for no other reason other than simply bc they are not feeling horny at the moment. Its an encouragement for the "not in the mood" spouse to try harder for the sake of their spouse and a healthy sex life.... rather than just being like "eh, dont really feel like it." Otherwise you can have a situation (that many people have) where the marriage is sexless and one spouse is deprived because the other one refuses to have sex with them for no good reason. And thats not right. That does NOT mean the other spouse has a right to pressure them in any way, much less to force themselves physically!
It's like my friend who was crying to me the other day saying her husband never has sex with her. In catholicism, it wouldnt be right for him to do that unless he has legitimate reason to. But of course it would be even worse for her to react to that by physically forcing him.
Does that make sense?
I know this old but I just wanted to say I 100% agree with what you wrote here. A healthy, fulfilling, loving marriage requires work. It’s not a passive thing. It’s not supposed to be easy. It’s not about each person going about their selfish whims. Giving something to your spouse because they’re communicating a need for intimacy can be very rewarding, because it goes beyond just, “I’m horny, so yeah, let’s have sex.” It’s about being selfless and actively loving the other person in a way that they need, even if that particular way is not high on your list of immediate desires at the moment. There is nothing depraved about that, lol. It’s called equal partnership.
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