Grief and how it sucks

[*Deidre*]

I wish I knew how to properly respond here.

I don't experience grief as others do.  When something bad happens in my life, I seek a solution past it.  That's just me.

However, I do understand you are grieving.  Three years after the fact, however, seems excessive.  At this point, I would suggest professional help.

And what solution would you find for this? I don't know what a therapist could say to me. 

Give it a few more years. It passes.

Side question here: Why mention your father dominates your mother?

It affects how she treats me, I don't really think my mother has always just been herself....because my dad is pushy, bossy. It just affects her, and then that affects how she is with me.

Someone (I disremember who) once said that the best way to cope with grief is to be grateful that there was someone in your life who was so hard to say 'goodbye' to.

And Deidre, I know it isn't even a little bit of consolation, but my father died 15 years ago, and it is still an open wound.  You're not alone, luv.

Boru

That's true, Boru. I'm grateful, but like I said...how can this be worse than never feeling love? If you never felt love, you wouldn't feel like this lol That's for sure. But, then maybe you'd experience a different kind of void.

Ah, the perils of being human.