Is it possible for someone to have a plan and not have one at the same time?

[brewer]

Is this about your parents and how they raised you, again?

Maybe you think that I complain too much about it. I understand if you feel that way. It's just that I want to find an explanation.
I remember that I made a post about the religious incident with them and you answerd that my mom might be like sheep.
To be honest I don't know if that's the case. She wanted me to have a certain interpretation about religion, yet didn't tell me said interpretaion. How is this being sheep?
You don't have to ask any questions whatsoever to come to the conclusion that you should tell kids what you want them to know. Society wasn't pushing her not to.
Most of her closed ones are moderates as well If she wanted me to fit in, she should've told me her interpretation.
It was right in front of her eyes.

There may be no explanation, and if there is it can only come from your parents. 

Some parents don't have the ability to talk openly with their kids. Some beta spouses (sheep) don't have the ability to be in conflict with, or have independent thought from, the alpha.