(March 10, 2019 at 10:54 pm)fredd bear Wrote:I am certainly not young and am therefore allowed some leeway on things I say.(March 10, 2019 at 8:11 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: I have found that people don't like it much when you say you don't much care for children.
But I totally get it. Babies...no thanks. Toddlers...extra no thanks as they are mobile. At about 10 I can become interested if the kid has some signs of intelligence, a sense of humor, and a personality.
Yeah, yeah...I had three kids and that's a big part of how I know that I don't like the company of young children.
I get away with saying a lot more outrageous things these days because I'm old.
I once had the bewildering experience of watching a very bright young woman drop about 20 I Q points after the birth of her first child. She seemed to devolve as she went into 'baby brain ' mode. I'm sure it's a hard wired thing, to ensure the survival of the child. Very disconcerting the first time I saw it. I thought poor girl was having a psychotic episode. Perfectly understandable in the circumstances
--and you've had three? Good for you--all bullshit aside, I consider not having had children is very much a 'mixed blessing.' (if you'll forgive the expression) . I'm aware I have probably missed a lot of great stuff.
I have seen the dreaded baby IQ drop in action...every baby isn't beautiful/handsome/cute, every baby isn't a genius, every baby isn't super talented...but you are right...it's probably a survival of the species thing that is necessary.
Yeah...I had three...all grown now with either kids or stepkids of their own. There are still times when I wonder if I can change my mind and decide I don't want to have kids. I suppose that ship has sailed. If only I knew then what I know now....
