Should you end the relationship with a person for one big mistake?

[Brian37]

in reality revenge does not solve anything.

It isn't MEANT to solve anything.  Revenge is meant to speed up the universe evening things out.  Dunno about you, but I've had it up to HERE with people telling me nonsense like, 'Living well is the best revenge' or 'Forget revenge, just move on with your life'.  Fuck.That. 


Revenge, properly constructed, is the best thing EVER, especially if it involves a chalk outline.



Boru

In a 13.8 billion year old universe, which is not cognitive, it makes no sense to even imply friend or foe are favored by it.

It doesn't "even out" anything. The emotional reaction to harm done to one'self is natural, but in the context of the entire universe, it is meaningless.

It only matters to oneself while you are alive, but it does not change the fact both friend and foe all die.

Neither you, or I, or Hitler, or Obama, or MLK or Stalin were around 4 billion years ago. And none of us will be remembered 10 billion years from now.

I get the emotional reaction to someone harming you, that part I do get. But to the universe on a cosmic scale, no, it does not "even out".

Otherwise the dinosaurs could get even with the meteor that killed them.

Having emotions is one thing, but always acting on them, is hardly pragmatic. 

If everyone got to beat up or murder people they don't like, all 7 billion of us could think of plenty of people we wouldn't want living. 

Having a sense of relief when someone who has harmed or threatened you can no longer do that, is a normal feeling. But in general, at least in the west, we cannot and should not always get violent based on our emotions. No point in protecting pluralism or common law if revenge is always the solution.