RE: Should you end the relationship with a person for one big mistake?
March 12, 2019 at 7:11 pm
(This post was last modified: March 12, 2019 at 7:12 pm by fredd bear.)
I would love to say no, as a general principle, but am unconvinced a dogmatic rule is helpful. .
I'll jump the gun, and mention Jesus. The Lord's prayer talks about forgiveness. Jesus is asked at some point how many times should we forgive? Seven? Jesus replies " 70 times 7 ". IE always.
Meanwhile, back in the real l world:
Depends on the nature of the relationship, mistake, and whether it's legal or personal and how deeply the mistake injures you.
I guess a lot of mistakes with legal consequences are forgivable.
Personal 'mistakes' are a different matter entirely. For me, a betrayal of trust is hardest to forgive. A matter of degree I think. Family are always forgiven (eventually) friends, not as much. Case by case thing.
Betrayal by a spouse or beloved girl friend can be very hard for me to forgive. The hardest thing for me to forgive is the very idea of infidelity.
I've never been unfaithful, in thought, word or deed, to my wife or any girl friends before or after I was married. Nor have I ever had to deal with infidelity. I like to think I would love the person enough to truly forgive. I'm not certain that I could.
I'll jump the gun, and mention Jesus. The Lord's prayer talks about forgiveness. Jesus is asked at some point how many times should we forgive? Seven? Jesus replies " 70 times 7 ". IE always.
Meanwhile, back in the real l world:
Depends on the nature of the relationship, mistake, and whether it's legal or personal and how deeply the mistake injures you.
I guess a lot of mistakes with legal consequences are forgivable.
Personal 'mistakes' are a different matter entirely. For me, a betrayal of trust is hardest to forgive. A matter of degree I think. Family are always forgiven (eventually) friends, not as much. Case by case thing.
Betrayal by a spouse or beloved girl friend can be very hard for me to forgive. The hardest thing for me to forgive is the very idea of infidelity.
I've never been unfaithful, in thought, word or deed, to my wife or any girl friends before or after I was married. Nor have I ever had to deal with infidelity. I like to think I would love the person enough to truly forgive. I'm not certain that I could.
