I'm trying to come out to a very close friend about losing belief in the supernatural the religion thing is already known, I know you're probably wondering why didn't you address that at the same time? well it's because our friendship formed when we were children over that one particular subject and it's thrived on it. Even though we have many other things in common.
It's been 14 years of me "Pretending" to be the same person who believes the same things and wearing a mask I'm also an aspie and let me tell you I'm very good at wearing masks, it's probably not done this particular problem any good either.
Today I called her on the phone to try and sorta slowly edge my way into, I was asked to do ____ but I don't believe in it and I don't know what to do.
And the closer I got to "I'm not a teenager anymore, I'm an adult and I've changed" The more I could tell she was getting worried and I think she's suspected it but try's and tells herself it's not true and that makes it harder. You see this is a comfort to her and I understand because it used to be the same for me so I have a lot of empathy exspecially given her situation that I can't disclose because it's not my place. I feel like as soon as I heard the concern and fear in her voice I went from removing the mask to putting it back on and for the sake of not creating distress. I know it's wrong to lie, and I know I shouldn't. But is there ever a time where lyings actually okay?
I didn't help any of this growing up.
It's been 14 years of me "Pretending" to be the same person who believes the same things and wearing a mask I'm also an aspie and let me tell you I'm very good at wearing masks, it's probably not done this particular problem any good either.
Today I called her on the phone to try and sorta slowly edge my way into, I was asked to do ____ but I don't believe in it and I don't know what to do.
And the closer I got to "I'm not a teenager anymore, I'm an adult and I've changed" The more I could tell she was getting worried and I think she's suspected it but try's and tells herself it's not true and that makes it harder. You see this is a comfort to her and I understand because it used to be the same for me so I have a lot of empathy exspecially given her situation that I can't disclose because it's not my place. I feel like as soon as I heard the concern and fear in her voice I went from removing the mask to putting it back on and for the sake of not creating distress. I know it's wrong to lie, and I know I shouldn't. But is there ever a time where lyings actually okay?
I didn't help any of this growing up.
