(December 24, 2022 at 11:07 am)Thumpalumpacus Wrote:(December 23, 2022 at 11:45 pm)Jehanne Wrote: I think that eBay with a hidden reserve would be a better analogy -- you're willing to sell, but, not to just anyone and everyone. (Well, at least I hope that such is not the case.)
Whichever analogy you prefer. My point is that taking rejection personally is a great recipe for unhappiness. "What's wrong with me?" thinking gives off a reek that everyone can smell, and I think most of us find it deeply unattractive -- so that it becomes a vicious cycle.
Taking rejection personally is to be expected. Take a personal inventory. Be brief, don't tarry. Plan some growth and change if needed, but move on fast. I agree that overpersonalizing things must be avoided. Many things have external causes outside one's control. And, if needy and pathetic were attractive we'd all get laid on our worst days.
