RE: Black Pill Dating Theory?
August 24, 2023 at 2:49 am
(This post was last modified: August 24, 2023 at 2:55 am by FrustratedFool.)
I think one of the difficulties faced by ugly lonely people is that so many folk find it very difficult to appreciate that aesthetics and luck play so big a factor in relationships.
People are often saturated with the false messages that there is someone for everyone, that looks aren't important, that character beats all, and that if you're unable to find a relationship it must be because of some fault of yours - you're too picky, you lack confidence, you don't try hard enough, you must be a bad person etc.
Even my sex and relationship therapist found this hard to accept. She was somewhat incredulous that I had been so ill treated through my life because of my looks. She would act confused saying things like, 'but you're so confident, positive, intelligent etc?' And I'd have to remind her that the issue wasn't my personality but that I was physically unattractive. At one time she thought that I would have greater success on fetish dating apps because she thought that they would be less interested in appearance. Of course, the results were the same as for tinder and bumble etc. Many men can go on a dating app and get a dozen likes or less over months. My girlfriend can get hundreds in a couple hours, lol. Looks (and gender and sexuality) dominate.
People are often saturated with the false messages that there is someone for everyone, that looks aren't important, that character beats all, and that if you're unable to find a relationship it must be because of some fault of yours - you're too picky, you lack confidence, you don't try hard enough, you must be a bad person etc.
Even my sex and relationship therapist found this hard to accept. She was somewhat incredulous that I had been so ill treated through my life because of my looks. She would act confused saying things like, 'but you're so confident, positive, intelligent etc?' And I'd have to remind her that the issue wasn't my personality but that I was physically unattractive. At one time she thought that I would have greater success on fetish dating apps because she thought that they would be less interested in appearance. Of course, the results were the same as for tinder and bumble etc. Many men can go on a dating app and get a dozen likes or less over months. My girlfriend can get hundreds in a couple hours, lol. Looks (and gender and sexuality) dominate.
