(August 23, 2023 at 4:25 pm)FrustratedFool Wrote: Well, it's true, lol. I accept that in a world of 8 billion there will be all kinds of odd outliers.
But, to be clear, in my personal.lived experience (for as little as that counts), I've never seen (in real.life) an ugly man with an attractive woman (except for prostitution).
Well, that settles that!
(August 23, 2023 at 4:25 pm)FrustratedFool Wrote: I also think it plain common sense that looks matters more than all other things as far as general dating success goes.
You mean like how it's obvious that the Sun goes around the Earth? It's an attractor, sure.
(August 23, 2023 at 4:25 pm)FrustratedFool Wrote: And looks forms the hard barrier to dating: hardly anyone dates someone they are physically repulsed by: you have to meet a minimum looks threshold to date. No other single factor seems to carry the same weight of influence.
It's the most visible factor, sure. And if you want a series of dates rather than a long-term relationship, sure, looks are the most important.
(August 23, 2023 at 4:25 pm)FrustratedFool Wrote: I think lookism and halo effect are real things.
They are, sure. I just think you're overstating their importance.
(August 23, 2023 at 4:25 pm)FrustratedFool Wrote: And I think all that matches the core of the BP idea when stripped of its weird hyperbolic rhetoric and sexism.
That's because they focus on what they cannot change rather than what they can.
(August 23, 2023 at 4:25 pm)FrustratedFool Wrote: And I think it a genuine societal problem to have a bunch of people whose basic psychological needs are going unmet, who are suffering, who are often mentally ill, because of bad genetic luck, and who are forming communities online where they stir each other up with rhetorical excesses.
What would you suggest?