A personal and worry question

[Whateverist]

My vote is to get out and don't look back. Save yourself. Go on caring about your family's well being but don't make your own wait for theirs. Limit your contact, don't let them keep you stuck in negative patterns. Create healthy new relationships. What you see in your family is in you too so work on finding your own balance. It isn't simply a matter of comprehension, it is also visceral. You have a therapist. Use that.