How can a god, that apparently loves everyone, allow this kind of thing to happen?

[catfish]

The only one who can help you understand what happened is you.
Do you know what a loaded question is?

Believe it or not, catfish, but if John truly believes I just accused him of physical woman-beating, then I feel bad about that. I actually like John. I think he's got some bizarre views, and I think he may have worded some of those views in a more inflammatory manner than he intended, but I don't think he's a bad guy, or an idiot. So I am genuinely asking if there is really any way he could have misinterpreted my statement that much. But be a dick about it, why don't you.

You want me to be a dick about it? Fine...

You used demonising tactics and he called you on it. Correct it or defend it, those are your only options, otherwise you're a disingenious troll.