RE: Maybe People Should Not Look Up To YouTube Atheist
December 10, 2013 at 10:17 pm
(This post was last modified: December 10, 2013 at 10:29 pm by pineapplebunnybounce.)
Lemon, thanks for the sentiment. He never did, I didn't tell anyone cos I didn't understand what was going on and I thought my parents would be mad at me and I was scared.
Anyways, ok, stuff you said. I looked a few pages back so hopefully I got this right:
1. no shady places : this is fine, everyone instinctively does this anyway, boys or girls.
2. gun or mace: uhm, no. Because if you're not good at using a weapon and carry it around, it'll more likely be used on you. So yes you can get very good at it if you wish, but otherwise gun isn't that good a thing. Mace yea, but it's illegal in a lot of places to carry one. It's illegal where I live.
3. be confident: ok, this is just no. Because women are people too, some of us aren't confident, some of us have bad days, it's not a practical measure. Also I don't think this is the only thing rapist zoom in on. More on that later.
4. Don't flirt: well this is just no. People flirt all the time. That's how normal people get to know each other, show people they're interested, etc. etc.
5. Phone: good one but I know that some people think this is foolproof. It really isn't.
I think I got all of it? Well the thing is all these reduce chances of being raped by strangers outdoors. In your own home, almost the entire list doesn't work anymore. When it's someone you know, again, the entire list just goes out the window. As for rapists being predators, and we shouldn't "look the victim". I'm sure they go for a lot more than your demeanor. It's also your size, if you're carrying things, if you look like you can run (which you can't really if you have heels and pencil skirts or you're just plain unfit). There's also the issue of attraction. They fixate on you, for whatever reason who really knows? Who will know? There are so many factors, to alter yourself such that you're no longer their "type" is a futile effort because there are so many of them and their "type" ranges from little girls to old ladies. Yes, old ladies get raped too. There's also the thing about living like a victim, you aren't a victim but you live in fear of this thing to the extent that you forgo things you like, it's just not a life people want to live and it goes way beyond being responsible, it becomes a sacrifice.
Perhaps I can articulate what I'm trying to express a little better. When talking about preventative measures or ways to keep safe, we really must understand the extent to which these measures ACTUALLY help. I feel like many people think that these things are women's first line of defence against rapists, muggers, or other types of assholes when in truth it's like a last desperate move. But somehow there's almost nothing else at our disposal. We should be more aggressive about this, and realize how helpless the situation is so that someone can come up with something better, and not fixate on the same old things that we all already know and have been doing for decades.
Anyways, ok, stuff you said. I looked a few pages back so hopefully I got this right:
1. no shady places : this is fine, everyone instinctively does this anyway, boys or girls.
2. gun or mace: uhm, no. Because if you're not good at using a weapon and carry it around, it'll more likely be used on you. So yes you can get very good at it if you wish, but otherwise gun isn't that good a thing. Mace yea, but it's illegal in a lot of places to carry one. It's illegal where I live.
3. be confident: ok, this is just no. Because women are people too, some of us aren't confident, some of us have bad days, it's not a practical measure. Also I don't think this is the only thing rapist zoom in on. More on that later.
4. Don't flirt: well this is just no. People flirt all the time. That's how normal people get to know each other, show people they're interested, etc. etc.
5. Phone: good one but I know that some people think this is foolproof. It really isn't.
I think I got all of it? Well the thing is all these reduce chances of being raped by strangers outdoors. In your own home, almost the entire list doesn't work anymore. When it's someone you know, again, the entire list just goes out the window. As for rapists being predators, and we shouldn't "look the victim". I'm sure they go for a lot more than your demeanor. It's also your size, if you're carrying things, if you look like you can run (which you can't really if you have heels and pencil skirts or you're just plain unfit). There's also the issue of attraction. They fixate on you, for whatever reason who really knows? Who will know? There are so many factors, to alter yourself such that you're no longer their "type" is a futile effort because there are so many of them and their "type" ranges from little girls to old ladies. Yes, old ladies get raped too. There's also the thing about living like a victim, you aren't a victim but you live in fear of this thing to the extent that you forgo things you like, it's just not a life people want to live and it goes way beyond being responsible, it becomes a sacrifice.
Perhaps I can articulate what I'm trying to express a little better. When talking about preventative measures or ways to keep safe, we really must understand the extent to which these measures ACTUALLY help. I feel like many people think that these things are women's first line of defence against rapists, muggers, or other types of assholes when in truth it's like a last desperate move. But somehow there's almost nothing else at our disposal. We should be more aggressive about this, and realize how helpless the situation is so that someone can come up with something better, and not fixate on the same old things that we all already know and have been doing for decades.
