(June 10, 2014 at 12:46 am)elconquistador Wrote: It's just so incredibly messy right now that I don't think I'll pursue a relationship with my father until I've found my career route, started my schooling back up, started my business, found my volunteering route, and have my own place again. At that time my father will no longer have anything negative to say about my life and if he does...well I'll be confident to know he's wrong instead of allowing his pessimist sentiments to run my life like the past 21 years.
This sounds like a good plan to me. Not only will it give you time to focus on getting your life back in order, it'll give both of you time to clear your heads and put some distance between yourselves and this confrontation. It'll also give you time to plan your approach in how you would like to pursue your relationship with your father.
(June 10, 2014 at 8:02 am)naimless Wrote: I don't boast publicly about my beliefs or lack of them on Facebook as I would not like to read someone else doing the same about theirs.
Facebook is an opt-in website, and friending or following someone is opt-in, too. If you don't like the content of someone's posts you can hide them, unfriend them or block them if needs be, and the same goes for anyone who might not like what you post.
It isn't necessary for ElCon and his dad to be friends on facebook and it sounds like it would be better for their relationship if they weren't, but prescribing what someone should or shouldn't post on their own facebook page is ridiculous. ElCon's dad can unfriend him, or ElCon can unfriend his dad, but ElCon does not need to stop posting about how happy he is just to satisfy the whims of someone else.
Teenaged X-Files obsession + Bermuda Triangle episode + Self-led school research project = Atheist.