(January 30, 2015 at 6:33 pm)dreamsofpotato Wrote: My family is still religious. Every Friday, my dad texts me "shabbat shalom." before the Sabbath starts. (it means "have a good Sabbath")
He knows I'm an Atheist, but I don't think he knows how uncomfortable it makes me feel when he says this to me, week after week.
I feel like i need to tell him it makes me feel uncomfortable and ask him to stop, but a small voice in my head is saying don't hurt his feelings.
I'm new here so if I've posted this in the wrong thread, just let me know.
Thanks guys
1. Can you see this as a mutual give and take
that if you can forgive him for what he says convenient for him,
then equally he is forgiving you for things that normally
make him uncomfortable but which are more convenient for you.
2. if it really makes you uncomfortable, are there things he asks you to stop or refrain from that make him uncomfortable? If you can both agree to stop, then that's an equal give and take there
3. can you be happy that he is expressing himself in his way,
the same way you'd rather people be happy that you are as you are too.
which way do you want to go with this?
do you want to try to both forgive and both focus on being happy for each other? sort of like when Christian parents find out their kid is gay, and just want their kid to be happy. or kids find out their parents are getting divorced, and they aren't comfortable, but want their parents to be happy
