RE: basket case rant
September 2, 2010 at 11:22 pm
(This post was last modified: September 2, 2010 at 11:23 pm by Oldandeasilyconfused.)
(September 2, 2010 at 9:54 pm)RachelSkates Wrote: Ouch.
I have been agonizing over an ex and have been considering contacting him. Thank you for explaining how much it hurts.
It's been only a year. Never stops. :-(
I hope you can get your mind back to sanity. That's the hardest part!
Thank you Rachel. It can be hard to let go.It took me 20 years to fully let go of my first love.Only happened after my marriage (to someone else) ended.
Right now I remain in high dudgeon; angry and obsessive. I've drafted over a dozen letters aimed at guilting her and have deleted them all.I'm not very rational right now.You can't recall an email. I'm using the three day rule; write, wait three days before sending. So far not one has survived 24 ours.
Nothing positive can be achieved between us. I've discussed the issue with a good friend who is a registered psych nurse and counselor as well as a prosecuting barrister.(like an ADA in the US;it's a long story) There is no point in renewing contact,although he thinks I'll probably write the guilt letter at some stage; it will make me feel better.
Context: This was an unhealthy co dependent relationship. Hence the mutual obsession..( I ended it) These are common with needy alcoholics,which is what I was at the time.Today I'm a sober alcoholic (over 8years) Different person; today I want,but do not need in the same way.
