(September 4, 2010 at 12:01 pm)RachelSkates Wrote: The worse pain would have been never hearing back from you. She will relish that you responded, but no response would have been frustrated unknowing agony.
Never speak to her again.
She will write back......when she does, go straight to a therapist, guru, anything to handle the obsessions, but if you write back, she will know you are thinking about her and that will be enough to make her day, week, month, etc if she is particularly narcissistic.
Narcissists love negative thoughts about them as long as they are thought about. A calm rejection with no further thought ........yikes.
Thank you Rachel.
Fortunately, I have a wonderful friend of over 35 years. He was a 17 year old street kid when I met him. I took him in,as simply the right thing to do. A brilliant person with true total recall,he is today a registered psychiatric nurse and counselor AS WELL AS a prosecuting barrister(like a US ADA) He is always there for me. He was the catalyst for getting out of that raving co-dependent relationship. He can be very confronting,in the most caring way,which is is what I've been getting from him this week. It was his diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder. I share some of the features of that disorder.
I'm not expecting her to write back any time soon. Last time was 6 years ago. I initiated contact,and I had the last word,which from memory was " please do not contact me again"
This time I'm hoping the arteriosclerosis will have kicked in before before she contacts again,and will have forgotten her.. I always thought there had to be at least one positive thing about that terrifying condition.
