RE: Could really use some help on how to tell family...
September 30, 2010 at 11:50 am
(This post was last modified: September 30, 2010 at 11:55 am by freemike.)
(September 30, 2010 at 6:10 am)Beam Reach Wrote: Set limits with your Mon, give her the reasons you are not christian and end the conversation. She will never agree with you, and the results of your comment will result in an assault on any logic you used to explain your view. It is best to make your statement and tell her it is not a subject you will debate with her. People who use religion to blame everything on are not going to change, and your only option is to set these boundaries and limit access to your personal religious views. I think at 24 she needs to be out of you sex life, as well. The causes of failed relationships are none of her business, and discussing this with her is something you need to recognize as a poor decision. You are an adult at 24, and the responsibilities you assume as an adult require you come to grips with your own issues related to relationships. It is best to accept the breakup as a joint problem between adults, solve the problems you had in the relationship, and recognize the problems of the other person so you won’t make them in your next relationship. Than move on and find someone new.
With your Dad, I would limit the religious talks with him to the same statement you used on your mother. It is best to recognize he is living in his own hell with a person who links everything on her mythical gods, and sees sex as something god oversees.
Thanks for the advice and yeah the relationship thing we got straight. She basically accepted the fact that we don't agree on that and at this point she just doesn't want to know lol. Maybe the "god" subject will be the same as well, one could only hope but I doubt it. TBH, with my dad I'll probably say I'm atheist and he will go okay if that's who you want to be, lets go to the barn and grab a beer. My parents are like polar opposites, noone that knows me and them can see how they have lasted 30 years.