Marriage Poll

[Kyuuketsuki]

There is no reason believing in love that last forever long lasting love at all. It's simply a myth.

Maybe but there's no reason not to aim for it if that is what you want and what you believe in (and I do) ... you can argue as long as you want that marriage is unnecessary and love doesn't really exist but the fact is a significant aspect of society is buiolt on it, the fantasy (if that's what it is) is most enjoyable and I personally think it works.

Kyu

[Edwardo Piet]

Well it's an entirely personal matter for me, to each his/her own. To me it demeans, to others it inspires. I have given my view here and on the other marriage thread, I'll leave it at that now

I'll just say that the fact it's subjective and a personal matter is why I do believe it's just a fantasy...but - you can then of course just as easily argue that it's a fancy to not believe in marriage, since it's just a personal, subjective matter, in both cases

So I guess with me perhaps the fantasy is being able to get the same love with less - since to me personally that feels like it shows greater strength in the love. Since to those who believe in marriage, they, presumably; find a lot of value in the gesture itself and like to express their devotion to each other in that way, and with 'commitment'

So my point is one can't really have much of a true argument about it IMO...until he/she accepts that this is a subjective and personal matter. I'm sure we're all basically aware of this - but sometimes perhaps we get lost in our own views as if we temporarily forget that fact I think

EvF

[Ragnorokr]

I am an atheist, and married, I was married in a church.

A very similar kind of situation to Kyu really.

It was not as if it was any church, this was a twelfth century Norman church, and even though my wife is not much of a christian, she always envisaged her wedding as being in a church.

I don't particularly feel dirty about it, I mean it was not as if we were married by Fred Phelps.

[Giff]

It was not as if it was any church, this was a twelfth century Norman church, and even though my wife is not much of a christian, she always envisaged her wedding as being in a church.

Sounds stupid, acctually. I mean what's the point getting married in a church if you aren't religious?

[Edwardo Piet]

For a laugh???

You admire their architecture or the 'religious culture' or the 'history of it'?? Hm..

EvF