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A theist boyfriend?
#11
RE: A theist boyfriend?
I'm married to a believer. I was one while we were dating and through our marriage as well. She was never devout though. I think that is the key here. It depends on how devout one is. I think a hardcore theist is going to be tough to date or maintain a healthy relationship with. My wife believes in evolution just to give you an example. I love her Smile
"We are all connected; To each other, biologically. To the earth, chemically. To the rest of the universe atomically.”

-Neil deGrasse Tyson
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#12
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Wow, everyone has really given you some good advice. I know I'm late but as a theist I think it may be difficult to have a serious relationship because that person may expect your views to change one day, so it could lead to some hard times later. My husband wasnt a believer when we married and I found it very hard to maintain the relationship, but it wasn't impossible, so you two should talk about it sometime and get a feel for what religion means to each of you.
"And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him." Hebrews 11:6
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#13
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You're too smart for him. While you marvel at the spectacular realities, he'll fear them and call them garbage. I can't see you with someone who is that jaded. He should be worried about offending you too, ya know. Next time you should just speak your mind. If you piss him off and he can't handle the truth, he's probably not the guy for you.
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#14
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Alei raises a great point. What does HE think of you?
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#15
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Thanks guys. I dont expect him to change because I dont expect myself to change for him either. I will see how it goes. Things are alright but when he start going off on Jesus or God and his church talk I want to go run and smash my head into the wall. It might work if neither of us talk about that subject but I doubt that is possible.
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#17
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(May 29, 2012 at 11:08 pm)aleialoura Wrote: You're too smart for him. While you marvel at the spectacular realities, he'll fear them and call them garbage. I can't see you with someone who is that jaded. He should be worried about offending you too, ya know. Next time you should just speak your mind. If you piss him off and he can't handle the truth, he's probably not the guy for you.

You are right. I'm planning to do that. Be more myself and see how much he can take it. For some reason religious people feel like others automatically owe them some sort of respect because it is a religion and they have some god-given right to be in peoples face about it. I feel like my love for science and astronomy is too much to be ignored and have him call it garbage. Kind of want my cheesy nerdy science star gazing date you know? Kind of want to share my thoughts on the universe with my partner and can talk about it. I find thrilling to feel so small and insignificant
In this grand universe yet at the same time be amazed how unconscious matters come together to construct us......like Carl Sagan said "We are made of star stuff." The more I think about it the less I want him lol...
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#18
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You know, being infatuated with someone is so different from being in a relationship with someone. I've crushed on people that I would never even date. The brain and hormones are scumbags like that.. Tongue
It's always better to use one's head and don't let one's feelings take completely over.
When I was young, there was a god with infinite power protecting me. Is there anyone else who felt that way? And was sure about it? but the first time I fell in love, I was thrown down - or maybe I broke free - and I bade farewell to God and became human. Now I don't have God's protection, and I walk on the ground without wings, but I don't regret this hardship. I want to live as a person. -Arina Tanemura

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#19
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as long as he isn't shoving it down you're throat (the religion that is) then there really shouldn't be any problem. My fiance is theistic amd there are no belief clashes but it rather gives you a greater understanding of the motivations toward religious belief. However, fundamentalists are always a no-go area, heed my words Tongue
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#20
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Quote:For some reason religious people feel like others automatically owe them some sort of respect because it is a religion and they have some god-given right to be in peoples face about it.

You earned a rep pt just for that observation.
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