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coming out
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RE: coming out
(August 17, 2012 at 6:30 am)Brian37 Wrote: Honestly if you are depending right now because of cost of living, on sharing living space, that would be a risk. Your kid comes first and your kid needs a roof over his head no matter what. While your openness is appreciated here, that is something neither you or your parents should have any right to pull him into any possible conflict that might affect him.

I'd say save your money and then when you can get your own place, it wont be as much as a problem if their reaction is that negative.

my wife and i got our own place at the beginning of july so that's not of concern. the only thing that i depend on them for is child care one day a week, which is overnight since my wife and i both work nights and our shifts overlap one night per week. it wouldn't be too hard to find someone else that would let him sleep over since my extended family are all very loving people, and the first person i would ask would be my aunt who has known about my lack of belief for a couple of years now.
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RE: coming out
(August 17, 2012 at 6:43 am)ohh EPiC FAiL Wrote:
(August 17, 2012 at 6:30 am)Brian37 Wrote: Honestly if you are depending right now because of cost of living, on sharing living space, that would be a risk. Your kid comes first and your kid needs a roof over his head no matter what. While your openness is appreciated here, that is something neither you or your parents should have any right to pull him into any possible conflict that might affect him.

I'd say save your money and then when you can get your own place, it wont be as much as a problem if their reaction is that negative.

my wife and i got our own place at the beginning of july so that's not of concern. the only thing that i depend on them for is child care one day a week, which is overnight since my wife and i both work nights and our shifts overlap one night per week. it wouldn't be too hard to find someone else that would let him sleep over since my extended family are all very loving people, and the first person i would ask would be my aunt who has known about my lack of belief for a couple of years now.

Well, based on this post you have not burned any bridges. Long term, you are still connected with your family, just like I am with mine and even my co workers and friends who do not hold the same position I do.

We cant give you a sugar pill. There never is for the "black sheep" who really is not a "black sheep", but someone who does not subscribe to the positions of others around them.

The only power anyone in life really has, which is still not absolute because the actions of others still affect us, but the only power we have is how we chose to deal with conflict. Sometimes people should part ways, and sometimes you can disagree without making it a war. But no matter the label, or what position someone may take, when it comes to kids, HOW you deal with conflict in front of them, will affect them.
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