My Crazy Grandmother

[My imaginary friend is GOD]

Oh, she's been committed. Recently, in fact. It didn't seem to help. Instead, she got the attention and drama that she wanted and was worse for a while.

I'm not sure what to suggest, then.

My aunt is a shadow version of that. A crazy right wing fuck nut to boot. We mostly ignore her and don't visit. She hasn't threatened suicide to us, but I haven't asked my cousin if she has to him. In fact, I don't have much to do with any of that side of the family, partially because my second cousin kept reminding me we were ONLY second cousins when I was up there for a funeral. o_O

My dad and I have chatted about it because they're both getting on in years and he doesn't want family possessions to get snookered up by her. We haven't come up with a viable solution except making sure legally things are too tied up for her to sink her claws into. Much like your grandmother, any time decisions like this are made it's just fuel for her martyr complex.

The best I can suggest is to consult a mental health professional about how best to deal with it and her, and see if there's something that can be done besides committing her, if that didn't help.

The truth is, I don't think there are any easy answers on this one. She doesn't want to be better, so all the psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, counselors, and all the others who have treated her have failed to help her, sometimes giving her drugs in the process that made her worse. She also still is able to get mental health professionals on her side, using some of her magnetism left over from the old days. I suspect she is bipolar. But I'm not sure, and bipolar disorder is genetic, so you would think either I would have it or my mom would.

[thesummerqueen]

Genetics can be complicated like that.

But your answer is partly why I said you should talk to a professional on your own, without her there, and explain also that she gets them on her side sometimes when you have that conversation. This way your concerns can be laid out, and if there's nothing you can do about her, they might be able to give you coping techniques, should you still have to deal with her.

Not letting her know where your future kids are is a good idea.

[Gilgamesh]

I already gave you the easy answer, man. She's human waste. Fuck her. She's got no mental disorders (no such thing.) She's just a dumb bitch.

[thesummerqueen]

I'm sorry - I forgot to ask Gilg - where did you get your medical license?

[Gilgamesh]

I don't have one.

Where did you get your degree in religious studies? When did you read the bible, qur'an, ect? Fuckin' atheist scum.

[thesummerqueen]

Last time I read "the Bible" was during the time I was still going to Ner Shalom synagogue, albeit it's the "old" testament and most of our fucknut theists around here like to misinterpret it for the "new" book. I don't participate in Islamic discussions as I don't know fuck all about the religion.

And I'm not atheist scum. I'm scum from Mos Eisley. If you're going to label me, do it right.

[Autumnlicious]

give her some LSD or brownies this is the only cure for your grandmother

NEVER give the mentally unstable mind altering substances, especially without their consent.

Now, lean over so I can slap you.

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Also, if she was trying to kill herself for that long, she would have succeeded by now.

Not really. Her method of suicide is just really inefficient. She swallows pills. Then she calls everyone she knows and says she swallowed pills. Then somebody calls an ambulance and she goes to the hospital and has her stomach pumped. I don't think she can resist calling everybody because it's so dramatic.

Gilgamesh is right, in partial ways.

The woman in question who swallows pills isn't trying to die, she's begging for attention.

She's addicted to the drama it entails.

It's a form of holding herself hostage so that everyone else must drop what they're doing and feed her addiction.

In relationships, it'd be considered a form of domestic abused -- to hold the emotions of another as a hostage in return for doing what she, the abuser, demands.

The only solution, unfortunately, is to not interact with them anymore.

They are not suicidal -- a suicidal person doesn't reveal usually their plan.

Suicidal people often appear happy and non-suicidal, right up until they suddenly jump off a bridge to the advert and terrible anguish of their loved ones.

The woman in question is mentally ill.

She needs help.

[festive1]

Sounds somewhat similar to my dad. I feel sad that I can't have a relationship with him, but I don't feel guilty in the slightest from keeping my kids away. Crazy families can suck. I'm sorry you're struggling with this.

[My imaginary friend is GOD]

Sounds somewhat similar to my dad. I feel sad that I can't have a relationship with him, but I don't feel guilty in the slightest from keeping my kids away. Crazy families can suck. I'm sorry you're struggling with this.

Thanks. She's actually not as bad as my biological father was, but that's a whole 'nother story.

[Phish]

[quote='Phish' pid='414630' dateline='1363280286']
give her some LSD or brownies this is the only cure for your grandmother


NEVER give the mentally unstable mind altering substances, especially without their consent.

Now, lean over so I can slap you.

well LSD could mess her up but pot wont hurt her.