do u think people think im lame for not having a gf?

[leodeo]

im a pretty good looking guy and stuff but i dont have a gf and i live in a college town so everywhere i go theres guys and pretty girls, and i dont have many male friends either i so im usually alone when im out in public.

do u think when people see me they think "god what a loser, he probably doesnt even have a girlfriend" thats what i feel like people think when they see me in public.

[Jackalope]

No. I would not think that.

You do appear to have self-esteem and self-confidence issues, which is probably what's keeping you single.

I wouldn't worry about it so much.

[Silver]

I think you should stop worrying about what other people think.

All that matters is what you think of yourself.

[Zazzy]

Leo, you're obsessed with this GF thing. You need to relax about it. Seriously. You are creating a reality here in which you are so uptight about women that I bet a million bucks you are freaking them out with your over-eagerness. Start by finding a woman friend. A wingwoman is FAR better for meeting girls than a wingman, and it will give you lots of practice being around women.

To toot my own horn in a thread about Leo: I am a KILLER wingwoman. I am GREAT at meeting girls and then introducing them to my male friends and then getting a headache and having to go home, so sorry, too bad.

Get a wingwoman, Leo. We are awesome.

[Darkstar]

do u think people think im lame for not having a gf

Uh...no. Why would I? I imagine someone would have to be pretty judgmental to think so, and if they were that judgmental, I wouldn't take their criticism seriously.

do u think when people see me they think "god what a loser, he probably doesnt even have a girlfriend"

I doubt it.

[leodeo]

Alright thanks guys, I'm actually not overeager or anything with girls I talk to, I play it quite well and I can even show you my convo logs from the dating site, its just not working out for me and tonight i had a date planned but she canceled last minute so I been really depressed and crying non stop

[Silver]

i had a date planned but she canceled last minute so I been really depressed and crying non stop

Ummm, wow.

If a cancelled date is enough to depress you to the point where you begin crying, I suggest you speak to someone professionally. You may feel as though you are all alone in this world right now, that no one could possibly care for you, but that is furthest from the truth. Sure, you first need to care for yourself so that someone else can also see the wonderful person you are, but you should never allow yourself to feel so bad that you are crying.

Please, speak to someone in real life about this.

[Zazzy]

I suggest you speak to someone professionally.

I second this motion. Leo, I think I remember from another thread that you are in therapy? If not, you need to get there. If you are in therapy already, are you being honest with your therapist? Do you like him/her? I agree with Kit that's it's time you start seriously evaluating your therapy situation. It'll change your life- it did for me.

[Owlix]

I don't have a boyfriend.

I go to bars, concerts, ballgames
ALONE.
I don't feel lonely, I'm completely comfortable solitary, or in small groups.

I've never cared what other people think (for the most part), so it never crossed my mind that people might be thinking "Should her boyfriend really let her walk around alone while he sits and watches the 5th inning?"

Nah.
Loners are just as cool as... the opposite.

And I'm sure at some point I'll find another loner that just gets it.

[pineapplebunnybounce]

I don't have a boyfriend.

I go to bars, concerts, ballgames
ALONE.
I don't feel lonely, I'm completely comfortable solitary, or in small groups.

I've never cared what other people think (for the most part), so it never crossed my mind that people might be thinking "Should her boyfriend really let her walk around alone while he sits and watches the 5th inning?"

Nah.
Loners are just as cool as... the opposite.

And I'm sure at some point I'll find another loner that just gets it.

I'm so much like you, lol. I'm as comfortable being alone as I am with someone else. I don't really prefer one over the other, it all feels perfectly fine to me.