Is it weird that I consider myself straight and I'm so interested in guys?

[MusicLovingAtheist]

I relate to the OP post alot, and I think you should try out different things, maybe you'll like it .

see this >>>>>>>>>>>>

All these people saying just love whoever you want are missing the point. I want to figure out what I am specifically so I can find people who I identify with.

One of the things is that I will likely not make any friends let alone a girlfriend or boyfriend so I just want to focus on finding groups of people who I can relate to on the internet.

[One Above All]

...Seriously, am I on your ignore list, or are you just trying to get attention?

[vorlon13]

Some men I've encountered considered themselves straight regardless of what we did together. (Yes, Donnie R. I'm posting about you)

Donnie was sexually bisexual, but I'd guess he was emotionally heterosexual almost exclusively, and to him that is what mattered. No idea at all if his wife ever caught on or cared. If he turned up on my doorstep, I wouldn't turn him away, but I'd go into knowing he isn't available for a long term relationship.

There are men out there with all kinds of variations in their sexual wiring and emotional, and intellectual wiring. It is preferable if they can be honest about things, but these shades of inflection in sexuality are hard to fathom.

Some men are incapable of an emotional relationship with anyone, but most of them still like to boink.

Hell, I don't think the thread starter is any more or less screwed up than most anyone else.

[c172]

http://www.asexuality.org Why not go over there and post a bit? Tell them they don't exist, or something.

Then report back.

I counted 7 paragraphs. That's like a long college essay. I would only read a summary of all that.

OK, but first and foremost, that link has a messageboard connected to it, like AF is a messageboard. Maybe go here, and ask something about them.

http://www.asexuality.org/en/

Boy, you sure lack an attention span, you know that?

[Alex K]

So...

I find this need everyone feels to categorize sexual preferences pretty annoying and useless if we're talking about drawers in which we think we a have to fit. Why should we do that? It may be useful to find roughly likeminded people, but other than that?

The picture you paint of gender stereotypes in the op, I find unhealthy. You think women are too slutty and you dont like it? What does that even mean?

[vorlon13]

I see a continuum, (in case I wasn't clear) in several criteria in the mind regarding sexuality. Tough catagorizing when so many folks only look at what genital is in or around what other genital.

What is going on in the mind at the time is more important. But there are at least 3 categories internal, and they don't have to align.

[TaraJo]

I like hanging out in gay chat rooms on tinychat, adding gay people from skype threads on 4chan's /lgbt/ board on skype, joining /lgbt/ groups on steam and adding tons of gay friends, saving pictures of cute guys to specific folders totaling over 500 pictures of guys (clothed and unclothed) from 4chan's /hansom men/ board, fantasizing about sex with a guy almost exclusively over girls. I would still consider myself straight though. I have reasons why.

I think fantasizing about sex with a guy almot exclusively is kinda the definition of gay; at least for a dude it is, isn't it?

I just find our culture to be too heteronormative for myself to really ever feel comfortable fitting in as a bisexual man.

So, why are you letting culture define your sexual orientation? Date who you want, fuck who you want and to hell with what the rest of the world says about it.

Most guys are gross. They're bro dudes that are aggressive, obnoxious sports fans, hairy, fat, ugly. It's not even a matter of their personality, it's a matter of they just look like such a turnoff.

Clearly, you're looking at the wrong guys. There are some dudes out there who are damn sexy. I mean, have you ever seen Chris Angel with his shirt off?

I could be someone's friend if they were ugly, but I would never want to fuck a football player. I find that most gay guys have very different taste in men than I do.

Given your misconception about guys being hairy, ugly, gross, dudebros, I'm led to question whether or not you've actually met very many gay guys. I've met several and I honestly don't know very many at all who fit that bill.

Don't worry so much about labels and just do what works for you. You find a girl or a guy you're into and they're into you, do what comes naturally. Don't worry so much what people call you or what they say about you and just live your life; don't devote your life to worrying about what everybody else thinks or expects of you. I made that mistake and I so wish I could take it back.

Judging from previous posts I've seen from OP, my best guess is that he's gay, but he's fallen in with a brand of "social justice" that's especially hostile towards men and masculinity. Yes, they exist and they're bullshit; I've seen my boyfriend, go through a tremendous amount of angst because of those attitudes. As for OP, I'm guessing it's resulting in him having a difficult time recociling his sexual attraction towards men and the 'men-are-scum' attitude of his social group. Which is another reason you need to stop worrying what other people think and just do what works for you. If they're haters, let them hate and don't give any of them the attention they so desperately want.

If you don't want to take that advice, I suggest you go visit Atheism+ and they'll just help you feed that misandric attitude you seem to be carrying.
http://atheismplus.com/

[c172]

I live in the "gay" neck of my city, and quite frankly, most of the gay guys around here I find to be uberstylish. Which fits a general stereotype of gays. I'm hetero, but I think I fit the OP's fears much more than any actual gays here.

[DramaQueen]

Why are there many non-heterosexual people on this forum? I think it's weird

Anyway, you don't need labels. Just do whatever you want as long as no one gets hurt

[One Above All]

Why are there many non-heterosexual people on this forum? I think it's weird

Because there are many people on this forum? Unless the percentage of non-heterosexuals is significantly higher than the world average, it's irrelevant.