She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me

[rexbeccarox]

Why not pray really really hard, put your faith in the jesus you believe in enough to profess to love, and just accept whatever happens afterwards is your true part in Jesus's plan, and reflect your true worth as seen through the infallible and omniscient eyes of your jesus?

It is pretty odd that the OP is asking a bunch of heathen non-believers instead of... I dunno... clergy, or something for advice about his love life.

[Napoléon]

Or his god?

[SteelCurtain]

The easy answer is to pay attention to your wife.

If you are married to a person, there is absolutely NO FUCKING REASON ON EARTH why you should forget their birthday. You are a douche for that.

Maybe it's time you sat down and talked to each other about what's going on in your marriage. Why didn't you take your wife to New Zealand?

[Marsellus Wallace]

The easy answer is to pay attention to your wife.

If you are married to a person, there is absolutely NO FUCKING REASON ON EARTH why you should forget their birthday. You are a douche for that.

Maybe it's time you sat down and talked to each other about what's going on in your marriage. Why didn't you take your wife to New Zealand?

Gee, its not like he ran over her with his car. He FORGOT, I forget very important shit all the time, we are all prone to making mistakes and if we love each other, we forgive each other .

[SteelCurtain]

Gee, its not like he ran over her with his car. He FORGOT, I forget very important shit all the time, we are all prone to making mistakes and if we love each other, we forgive each other .

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I could not imagine forgetting my girlfriend's birthday. We've been together for three of hers. I am currently planning her 30th in March. You don't forget birthdays in my book.

[Dystopia]

Here's a tip - Start by telling her the bible is not an appropriate work of fiction to define her value. That could help. And no stoning allowed. That helps too.

[Jackalope]

Gee, its not like he ran over her with his car. He FORGOT, I forget very important shit all the time, we are all prone to making mistakes and if we love each other, we forgive each other .

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I could not imagine forgetting my girlfriend's birthday. We've been together for three of hers. I am currently planning her 30th in March. You don't forget birthdays in my book.

This. I negelected Kitty's birthday once, and I rightfully felt like a shithead. Never again.

[professor]

Here is what my wife said- if it all started when he went on vacation- she is angry.
You have to win her back.

My 2 cents- you did it.
Then you added insult to injury:
Forgetting the important date TO HER, and forgetting an important event TO HER.

What I had to do long ago when Wifee clamed up on me:
Get her to talk.
Quietly, kindly ask "What did I do?"
Admit to being a jerk.
Take the blame (all guys are jerks anyway).
I'm sorry (repeatedly) helps.
Bite the bullet and ask what you can do to make it up to your wife.
These occasions have become more rare for my wife and I as I have become more housebroken.

I also truly found your post odd, but you did get some real good advise from the members.

[Minimalist]

Prof has given good advice. Take it.

But before you do, study these.

What Women Say
And What Women Mean.



ARE YOU WILLING TO: This means you better do it.

FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks. This will cause you to have one of "those" arguments.

FIVE MINUTES: This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.

NOTHING: This means "something" and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and will end with the word "Fine".

GO AHEAD (With Raised Eyebrows): This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine".

GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows): This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care". You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine", and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.

LOUD SIGH: This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here arguing with you over "Nothing".

SOFT SIGH: Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. "Soft Sigh" means that she is content. Your best bet is not to move or breathe, and she will stay content.

THAT'S OKAY: This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead". At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.

PLEASE DO: This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay".

THANKS: A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say "you're welcome".

THANKS A LOT: This is much different than "Thanks". A woman will say "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the "Loud Sigh". Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh" as she will only tell you "Nothing".

[Thumpalumpacus]

The message you've sent her is that she isn't important. You'd rather be off running around with your buddies than remember her on her one day of the year. She's reacting in a like manner, signaling you that you too can be replaced. At this point, there's a fair chance of gamesmanship instead of honest communication.

If you want things to get better, apologize to her and ask her forgiveness for being thoughtless ... and then don't repeat that behavior.