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I can't decide, so you people decide for me.
January 24, 2015 at 9:06 am
I can't decide what to do in this situation so I want to try and get other peoples opinions on it if anyone can be bothered to have some input on this situation.
It isn't a big problem, it's privileged white guy from western civilization problem.
Basically, I'm meeting with friends tonight, I'm the only one who can drive and as I expected would happen, if I don't take people home in my car I'll look like a mean spirited bastard, on the other hand I hate it that people who live 15 minutes out of my way expect me to drive them right to their house.
So here are my options.
1) Give everyone a ride home, stop being mean, the downside to this is that we meet every week, so will I be expected to do this every week? And give every single person a drive home?
2) Pretend I caught the bus, I'd have to park somewhere, hide my car, which is pretty low, and it's like something from a sitcom, I'm bound to get caught out.
3) Just say no, and refuse to give everyone a ride home.
4) Just actually get the bus, it means waiting in the cold for a bit and some walking.
There's probably some inbetween options like just give them a ride this time then next time ask for petrol money?
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RE: I can't decide, so you people decide for me.
January 24, 2015 at 9:12 am
(This post was last modified: January 24, 2015 at 9:13 am by The Grand Nudger.)
Are you the designated driver? If so, make sure that everyone knows that they'll be ponying up for gas. Then, on the way home, stop every 5-10 miles to "fill up". Most expensive taxi -ever-. They'll never ask again.
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RE: I can't decide, so you people decide for me.
January 24, 2015 at 9:12 am
Just tell them you are in a rush so you cannot drive everyone to their doorsteps, but if anyone wants to go somewhere that's on your way, you would be glad to drop em off.
Or if you wanna be an ass, you can show off your badass NFS skills. They won't dare ask you for a ride next time onwards.
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RE: I can't decide, so you people decide for me.
January 24, 2015 at 9:12 am
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How many blocks can you walk? because you can park your car a few blocks away.
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RE: I can't decide, so you people decide for me.
January 24, 2015 at 9:13 am
(January 24, 2015 at 9:12 am)Aoi Magi Wrote: Just tell them you are in a rush so you cannot drive everyone to their doorsteps, but if anyone wants to go somewhere that's on your way, you would be glad to drop em off.
Or if you wanna be an ass, you can show off your badass NFS skills. They won't dare ask you for a ride next time onwards.
These thoughts did occur to me, especially to use my girlfriend as an excuse, say that she will be waiting up for me and she's already annoyed with me.
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RE: I can't decide, so you people decide for me.
January 24, 2015 at 9:15 am
Take a shovel with you and drive them somewhere isolated. They'll never ask you for a ride again.
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RE: I can't decide, so you people decide for me.
January 24, 2015 at 9:15 am
(January 24, 2015 at 9:12 am)dyresand Wrote: How many blocks can you walk? because you can part your car a few blocks away.
This also occurred to me, this is an OK idea, but I'm meeting with my band and I don't think my bass player will have a bass guitar unless I bring one for him. So to cut a long story short I either bring a bass for him and admit I took it in my car because no one would believe I carried my own guitar and his bass while walking.
Or I just don't bring his bass and do what you said, just walk a few blocks and lie about taking my car.
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RE: I can't decide, so you people decide for me.
January 24, 2015 at 9:16 am
I would generally recommend honest approaches. Cover ups will probably make you feel guilty, and will make things worse if they are found out.
I'd say either ask for money in the future, or make it clear you don't think it's fair on you to have to drop everyone off every single time.
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RE: I can't decide, so you people decide for me.
January 24, 2015 at 9:19 am
The straight forward approach you can never go wrong with it.
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RE: I can't decide, so you people decide for me.
January 24, 2015 at 9:22 am
I don't mind being charitable, the only thing I ask is honesty if you say you can pay me something, pay me. If you can't then say that as well and give me the option of making up my mind. I only find it abusive when you say something and don't follow it up.
I had a co worker who did that to me and I finally cut him off. I simply don't like the lying. I do not mind the asking.
If it is your car, ultimately it is your decision. But if it involves drinking, fuck what people think, your car or not, it is not worth the risk. No one is going to pay for your lawyer, and even being a passenger in many states if you step out of the car you can get a drunk in public ticket.
I have a simply policy. I get a cab or get a ride, and I don't give a fuck if others offer me a ride home, if they have been drinking, I refuse to get in that car with them even if am not driving.
If someone gives you a hard time about that, they are not your friend. Friends don't get you involved in their risk taking.
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