Are you okay with your (or your partner's) vajayjay?

[Thumpalumpacus]

There's nothing hotter than a woman giving vent to her pleasure at my attentions.

[Mermaid]

I was sort of hoping this thread would devolve into alternate names for vagina.

[Edwardo Piet]

I really hope Rocketsurgeon responds to me. I don't like being thought of as a homophobe.

[TheRocketSurgeon]

@ Rocketsurgeon You missed my point completely, I'm repulsed by non-consensual sex regardless of sex. Is that homophobia?

EDIT: It's irrational of me but merely hypothetically suggesting that I might be the slightest bit homophobic has upset me quite a bit. I apologise for being so overly sensitive.

If I wanted to suck a dick I'm sure I'd enjoy it. Seen as I don't want to and thus far at least have never been attracted to a man then if I were to suck a penis it would not be with my consent. I find non-consensual activity repulsive. Clear? Please don't think of me as homophobic I want to be your friend as I have a neurotic need to be liked by everyone I meet.

With all due respect, I think the "non-consent" is a non-sequitur, and a red herring. Of course non-consensual sex is repulsive to most people! What I was pointing out was that you implied that the only possible  way you could have oral sex with a man is if he was forcing you. That is a degree of repulsion that I felt went beyond mere disinterest, and warranted some self-examination on your part.

The point I was trying to make, in that example, was that denying you have homophobia in your heart while expressing clear repulsion for the sex-act is an indicator of hidden (even from self) homophobia. It's like denying that you have some  element of racism in your heart is a pretty good indicator that you have some element of racist feelings in your heart, even if you have not really examined them. It's the reason that people like Stephen Colbert mock those who claim to be "color-blind". 

But there's a world of difference between pointing out to you the racist programming you've absorbed (as have we all) from your culture, and encouraging you to seek to expunge it and become a better person, versus calling you a "racist" in the sense of being in the Ku Klux Klan or other White Supremacist or Nazi sympathizer ideological fields of thought.

I don't hate you, I'm not mad at you, and I don't think less of you. I also don't think you hate gay people. Don't worry!

[Catholic_Lady]

Well, to clarify, I'm not insecure about it in front of my husband. I'm just not attracted to it, and the thought of being with another girl grosses me out.

[MTL]

I really hope Rocketsurgeon responds to me. I don't like being thought of as a homophobe.

Why not send him a private message?

Then you can ensure that he sees your comments,
...you could even copy/paste the clarifying edit from your last post, into the message.

 He is very reasonable.....but don't stress yourself over it; it might take time for him to respond!

EDIT: Nevermind. he already did

[Edwardo Piet]

I have no repulsion for the sex act at all.... only doing it when I don't want to.... what is not repulsive about being made to do something you don't want to do sexually? Hypothetically speaking.

To be honest I find this all rather condescending and petty and since I know I'm not homophobic but I don't know Rocketsurgeon, I consider it possible he is more homophobic than myself, since I know I'm not one bit already and I don't know him. Maybe you are hiding your own insecurities Rocketsurgeon? Should I be distrusting of you too?

Here is a point for you Rocketsurgeon: Instead of distrusting my motives and banging on about what I first said - maybe you can give me the benefit of the doubt as a fairly intelligent and decent human being and let me clarify my position.

If you're going to attack homophobia which is totally justified of course - why don't you go and argue with real genuine homophobes instead of me? I'm not stupid enough to be such a bigot.

[Catholic_Lady]

The point I was trying to make, in that example, was that denying you have homophobia in your heart while expressing clear repulsion for the sex-act is an indicator of hidden (even from self) homophobia. It's like denying that you have some  element of racism in your heart is a pretty good indicator that you have some element of racist feelings in your heart, even if you have not really examined them. It's the reason that people like Stephen Colbert mock those who claim to be "color-blind". 

I disagree with this completely lol. Homophobia is not being grossed out by the thought of doing sexual things with other men when you are not attracted to men. 

I am grossed out by the thought of doing sexual things with *anyone* I'm not attracted to. Regardless of their gender. And since I'm not attracted to any woman, it grosses me out to think about going down on one. This is not homophobia lol.

[MTL]

I'm still waiting for clarification of the term "switchy"

[MTL]

The point I was trying to make, in that example, was that denying you have homophobia in your heart while expressing clear repulsion for the sex-act is an indicator of hidden (even from self) homophobia. It's like denying that you have some  element of racism in your heart is a pretty good indicator that you have some element of racist feelings in your heart, even if you have not really examined them. It's the reason that people like Stephen Colbert mock those who claim to be "color-blind". 

I disagree with this completely lol. Homophobia is not being grossed out by the thought of doing sexual things with other men when you are not attracted to men. 

I am grossed out by the thought of doing sexual things with *anyone* I'm not attracted to. Regardless of their gender. And since I'm not attracted to any woman, it grosses me out to think about going down on one. This is not homophobia lol.

I guess I can sort of see your point, Cath.

I don't want to kiss certain guys, but I'm still a straight woman.
The idea of intimacy with anyone I'm not attracted to could be seen as repulsive,
regardless of their gender.