My pathetic whining about how I want a relationship

[LastPoet]

Please get out my thread, bigot.

Your short attention span hasn't helped, I said you 2, and you reply with they? Haha. You are funny.

And it isn't your thread numbnuts.

[DespondentFishdeathMasochismo]

Please get out my thread, bigot.

Your short attention span hasn't helped, I said you 2, and you reply with they? Haha. You are funny.

And it isn't your thread numbnuts.

Sorry, I'm not really following what you're saying anymore. It's very boring and feels like it's making me dumber for reading it.

[robvalue]

My last piece of advice:

Before you hit "send" with an online message, ask yourself if you'd be willing to say it to the person's face, just like you've written it. If not, maybe you should rethink.

[DespondentFishdeathMasochismo]

I never actually get a fucking chance to talk with people. I have no idea what it takes to actually get engaged in a conversation with a person outside of the internet. I always go to concerts to go out to cafes or record stores or something, I have no fucking idea what to do. I just walk in and get some stuff and then I walk out like no one even fucking noticed me. I usually talk to the people behind the counter if it's a record store a little bit, because they're just there and I can. It doesn't make a difference. You act like I have this problem with talking to people, I never even fucking talk to people in the first place. God, all the stuff you're saying would be fine, if it actually applied to me.

Well, if you don't put yourself in a position to talk to people, you won't build relationships. Shouldn't that be obvious to you?

Since I've made this thread I've tried to brain storm some ideas of what I can do to meet people. I was thinking of several options. One is a record store that sells underground stuff and attracts and interesting crowd, but I doubt I could get a job there, plus I like the owner and I don't want to be in an employer employee position under him. 

The next option I was considering was working behind the scenes of a theater, to help with sets, stage production, stuff like that. That way I can be around intelligent, liberal, healthy, artistic young people, who I want to work with.

The next thing I was thinking was I want to help with lgbt activism, but I have wanted to help with this for a while and haven't asked my mom if I could, even though she's the one who suggested it initially. Too shy, even though it's a cause I believe in strongly.

Oh and blah blah blah, this is really redundant, this talk of there's no law that people have to like me. That is so extremely obvious to me, I don't even need you to pour salt in the wound. Also, what am I afraid of? Afraid of something that never even happens in the first place? No I'm not fucking afraid to talk to someone I just wish that it would fucking happen.

I'm not trying to pour salt on your wound.  But if you're not afraid to start conversations, and you have these opportunities, why don't you start them yourself? Expecting everyone else to do that for you is silly.

It's just a matter of finding situations in which I can interact with people.

Even on okcupid conversations only last a few sentences, then they don't really go anywhere. This world is just getting to be so impersonal, we've lost all ability to connect with others.

You haven't lost it.  You've surrendered it.

Well, I have lost opportunities to just be off the internet, to be honest. I sometimes imagine what my life would have been like growing up in the 80s without computers. I wonder what kind of life I would live and how much better off I would have been. I am very much a futurist and I am excited as can be about the progression of technology, but I think spending time on the computer is a waste, even though it can be interesting. Boy, have I wasted a lot of time.

You think I'm a fucking brooding loser? Screw you.

I called you a "lon[/i]er", not a loser.  And I stand by that; you yourself say above that while you have the opportunity to meet people, you won't talk to them.

Sorry I said screw you. I don't really mean that. You're right.

I think that's crap how people only like someone if they're not upset. People are selfish, greedy fucking pigs. They're so blind to what a person is actually like, what if a person was upset but was actually an interesting person? I guess everyone really does wish that people who are depressed would just fucking die. That's all they care about is superficial crap like who can behave the happiest, and hold up their stupid, fucking facade of life.

I'm not sure how you got this out of my post. I never liked you in the first place, because I don't know you nearly well enough to say one way or the other. I do know that I dislike the way you present yourself here, not only when you go off on one of your little I wish you would all fucking die tantrums, but also when you wallow in self-pity. I try to be decent to people who are decent to me, and I've gone out of my way with you because you seem pretty troubled to me.

But really, you're being a dick to me when I was simply trying to help you, so I'm not going to try any more. Figure it out on your own, or consult your Magic Eight Ball, or wallow in your self-pity that you enjoy so much.

The reason I say this is because I am upset that confidence attracts people. I don't have much confidence, it feels like a swift kick in the ass, to know full well that it's one of my biggest shortcomings, when it's not really something I can help. I was lamenting the nature of human beings.

I don't like people like that, people like that who are so absorbed in their own self confidence, I wish they would go fucking die.

lol, the kids who doesn't have the balls to start a conversatino in a cafe types shit like this online.

Bravo!

It's just me being extreme again. Don't take it so seriously please. 

KUSA is right? Okay so basically, I just have to act like I have really good qualities in front of others, then the person who I desire will notice. First of all I have no fucking idea where to find said person who you think I will be able to get them to notice me. I go to places in real life all the time, what do you think I can do to get noticed?

That's not my fucking problem. You presented your pathetic whining, I tried to help, you got butthurt.

Apparently the only way you can think of to get noticed is by throwing online tantrums ... but seriously, I'm just going to fucking tune you out.  You're being an asshole to me and I don't give a fuck whether you rot in your loneliness or not, and I sure in the fuck ain't gonna offer you any more kindness.

With that said, if you want to get noticed, run down the middle of Broadway naked.

I'm sorry for being an asshole to you, that's not how I meant to come across. This is honestly just how I talk when I'm upset and it's not over you. I think you're a swell guy and insightful too. I just think you're misguided about me and that's probably my fault.

This is one of the things that really pisses me off about people. All the time they will tell me that if I'm tired of being on the computer then I should just go outside and find someone to be friends with. I don't even get a chance to talk with people when I'm outside my house, it never happens.

Okay so if I'm supposed to just go outside and find someone to be friends with, I guess you could just tell scientists "oh, if you're so tired of not discovering extraterrestrial life, why don't you just get on your fucking telescope and find some extraterrestrial life?" What the fuck. No, whoever is reading this, stop thinking about whatever retort you're trying to make, just ask yourself whether or not you feel like you're fucking wrong. Please. Once you find the person, then do you get to stop putting up the incredibly energy consuming effort of the charade anyways?

You're an idiot.  Just because you don't agree with something doesn't mean that it's incorrect.

Also, your analogy is inapt.  You should think before you post; that is the optimal order of operations.

Once again, I wasn't directing my frustration at you, I'm sorry it seemed that way. I can see how I was being an asshole here.

Let me tell you something big boy. I think that what people say about real life being the place where people are real is wrong. In real life you are absolutely fake. People don't get to see any side of your in real life because they don't see anything about you besides your skin and some fucking lies we spew out of our mouths. Online people get to be who they really want to be, they actually get to say things they want to say and show sides of themselves they wouldn't otherwise show. 

lol, now you know me in real life? Suuuuurre.

You should restrict yourself to speaking for yourself. It makes you look much less like the idiot you appear to be right now.

Like I said before, I was speaking in general terms. It wasn't in relation to you, it was a digression. 

Okay, so now that I've thoroughly torn apart this aggravating text, I'd like to see someone tell me how I'm wrong about all of this, using quotes and refutations and not just some declarative statement that I'm supposed to take at face value.

"Thoroughly torn apart", eh? You keep telling yourself that, kid.

Anyway, I'll let you have the last word, because while I'm not going to actually put you on ignore -- your meltdowns sometimes have entertainment value, and I'd not want to miss one that was -- I'm not going to try to engage you in decent conversation any more. I don't like you, I don't like your behavior, and I feel sorry for the people who have to tolerate you in real life, because you're either truly this annoying to them, or you're a fake little shit afraid to be himself, and either way, that marks you as unworthy.

If you want to know why people don't want to talk to you, go look in the mirror.

Anyway, here's your opportunity to get the last word.  Make it good!

I'm sorry you're upset at me. Hope I can make it up to you with this apology. I didn't mean to come across as rude.

[KUSA]

Despo, I think the answers to your dilemma is to become a stripper. You would meet a lot of people and it would build your self esteem.

[ignoramus]

He he ... Doesn't mean to come across as rude after 100 posts!
That must be the world's longest running slip of the tongue!

[Thumpalumpacus]

Apologies mean little when the behavior doesn't change.