I've waited until now to comment in this thread because I didn't want to come off as sounding like an asshole or anything where my mother is concerned.
December 23 will be the 20th anniversary of my beloved father's death.
I do not have a relationship with my mother, and haven't for the last five years due to her irrational and inconsiderate decision making and her blatant and wilfull disrespect of the boundaries that I had set up between my ex and myself. Since she wanted to go the route of supporting an abuser and not her own flesh and blood that she gave birth to, I have had to do quite a bit of soul searching in order to maintain that I should not feel guilty for having a No Contact way of dealing with her.
Since my entire family is not one that I care to deal with and since they were so ready to cause tremendous hurt and pain to me, I made the decision to cut them out of my life. They are toxic and I don't need their negativity and abuse in my life. They can all have each other and my ex.
That all being said, back to the topic here. I have one older sibling. She can deal with my mother as she gets older. They did not care that they were destroying me and my children while they paid for my ex legal fees and lied for him on the witness stand. I will not cry when my mother passes away. I will celebrate because my children will no longer be subjected to her lies and her bullshit. If my mother were to ever need any sort of at home care, she can get that from my sister. As it was relayed to me some years ago, I am dead to that family. Funny thing is this too - my sister never had kids. Who does she think is going to care for her when she gets too old to care for herself? It won't be me, that's for sure. I guess she needs to make sure one of her friends kids would be up for the job of kissing her ass.
I rest easy and sleep in peace knowing my former family will not be a burden to me as they age. They did this to themselves and only have each other to blame.
December 23 will be the 20th anniversary of my beloved father's death.
I do not have a relationship with my mother, and haven't for the last five years due to her irrational and inconsiderate decision making and her blatant and wilfull disrespect of the boundaries that I had set up between my ex and myself. Since she wanted to go the route of supporting an abuser and not her own flesh and blood that she gave birth to, I have had to do quite a bit of soul searching in order to maintain that I should not feel guilty for having a No Contact way of dealing with her.
Since my entire family is not one that I care to deal with and since they were so ready to cause tremendous hurt and pain to me, I made the decision to cut them out of my life. They are toxic and I don't need their negativity and abuse in my life. They can all have each other and my ex.
That all being said, back to the topic here. I have one older sibling. She can deal with my mother as she gets older. They did not care that they were destroying me and my children while they paid for my ex legal fees and lied for him on the witness stand. I will not cry when my mother passes away. I will celebrate because my children will no longer be subjected to her lies and her bullshit. If my mother were to ever need any sort of at home care, she can get that from my sister. As it was relayed to me some years ago, I am dead to that family. Funny thing is this too - my sister never had kids. Who does she think is going to care for her when she gets too old to care for herself? It won't be me, that's for sure. I guess she needs to make sure one of her friends kids would be up for the job of kissing her ass.
I rest easy and sleep in peace knowing my former family will not be a burden to me as they age. They did this to themselves and only have each other to blame.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
