[split] The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)

[emjay]

Care to share the link? I ran into Drich (actually he's why I made an account of my own) a long, long time ago and had just about what sounds like the same experiemce! It helped me push off from the wall and swim free! For that to him I'm kinda grateful? It still doesn't mea however that I won't call him on his bullshit! Where was this?? *rawr momma bunny

If someone else wants to, they can. For me personally, I'd rather not drag it all up again. Especially since I've worked really hard at putting it behind me.

Just to say Judi, I kudosed luckie's post not because I wanted you to share a link and rehash all that business, but just because I agreed about Drich's uncanny ability to teach valuable life lessons... though not the ones he intends... that I too feel as strange sense of gratitude to him for being such a massive pain in the arse I'm really glad too that you've managed to learn similar lessons

[Mystical]

Fair enough. I got the "speed lesson" with him and this forum, his thread and baby bashing being my first post and really my first time in a forum where what i said mattered to me (and my second forum ever). Soooo yeah actually a month and even a year later i would cringe to read our conversation. But, now that I've become a wall flower to him, just another atheist to sift through, I can safely tell you that down the line, you may feel how I do. Personally, I want to go back and see how much (or little) hell I gave him, but thats just.. I have too much other stuff to do yeah.

Since Hammie is on vacation I just want to say that for all the good we do around here, sometimes when we are treating the forum as an extension of our daily lives with interactions that truly do feel like friendship to me--we all have our bad days. Our life status floods onto here some times and we may not mean for it to, but it does. I personally think that its these times when we are 'down' and are able to stand back up, sometimes with the hand of a friend, amongst the crowd we call AF.. That's what makes us more than acquiantences. When to live is to fight, and you have people who fight side by side you in whatever situation you may be in--or even if they just witness your trebulations (ha! Stole that off a Christian forum I did!).. We all connect more deeply than just acquiantences. That's why Nymphadora got so mad, why Hammie cares so much about what we think, why I am here instead of rightfully sleeping, and why we can honestly call ourselves here at AF, a community. Lifecaint perfect. None of us are. That's all.

♡you guys

[Edwardo Piet]

My break ended early along with my Mafia ban

I'll just say that I've been at school all day and this is the first chance I've had to respond. I won't bother with displaying your response, hence the hide tags.

No probs

I simply agreed with Shell, reiterated my own points about the posts I have seen, kept it short and to the point and your response is to dish out an angry wall of hate, telling me how full of shit I am among other things?

There was no hate

You have gone on and on and on and on about how you can handle honesty and it's what you want from others.  Apparently not.

Oh it is absolutely what I want. I'm glad that you're honest with me

The post contained in hide tags is precisely why, on numerous occasions, I have had to bite my tongue and refrain from commenting, because god forbid something be said that doesn't fall in line with your views. Proof is in the fact that this thread had to be split and another thread had to be closed because of your inability to let shit go. You don't want honesty. You don't want discussion. You want everything sugarcoated so your precious little feelings don't get hurt all the while, you want to be able to say whatever the fuck you want, without anyone else objecting or disagreeing with you.

I do want honesty and you don't have to bite your tongue when we disagree or I get emotional

JFC. If you can dish it out, then you sure as hell should be adult enough to be able to take it when it gets served right back at you without resorting to making dozens of posts across other threads about how your feelings are hurt.

Yeah I am adult enough to take it and I can I can also make posts about my feelings being hurt when they're hurt.

Was this harsh? Hell no and at this point, I don't fucking care if you think it is. It pales in comparison to the shit you threw at me.

I personally think that you were harsher than me. But that is absolutely fine and we can disagree on that no problem

If I've learned anything from what happened to me a month or so ago, it's that people are going to say whatever the hell they want to say here. And I needed to be okay with that because that particular person isn't in charge of my life. I am. No one else but me can make me feel a certain way and I needed to own that and just let that shit go. And that is the difference between you and me. You can't let shit go. I can. And have. You dont see me even so much as responding to the person i had issues with. I simply avoid their posts and go on with my day. You like to just keep poking the sleeping bear until it's had just enough to let you have it, then you wanna start in with all sorts of excuses for why you say the things you do, all the while seeking validation and reassurance from whomever will give it to you.

I'm glad that you have learned a lesson that is helpful to you  

This is a god damned internet forum where people are free to say what they please without having to endure endless posts of attention seeking behavior from someone who is supposed to be an adult.

When I say that regardless of whether it hurts my feelings or not I still want honesty anyway I really do mean that regardless of whether it hurts my feelings or not I still want honesty anyway.

And I'm tired of having to choose my words carefully for you so that you don't start

playing the 'woe is me' game. Get help.

When you read my posts I think it's best that you either go by the words in my posts instead of how it comes across to you or just skip my posts altogether

[Catholic_Lady]

Welcome back, ham. It's good to see you. I hope you've been doing well!

[Edwardo Piet]

Thank you CL. And yes I have. First two days without AF were the hardest. A lot harder than I thought it was going to be. But for the rest of the week it was easier and it's broken my excessive addictive posting habit. Was certainly worth it. Now hopefully I can go quality over quantity. Now the habit is broken I just need to avoid making it again. Shouldn't be difficult: I'll just occupy myself more with the things I occupied myself with when I was going without AF

[Catholic_Lady]

It's great to hear that! I'm glad you had the strength to do whatever is best for you, regardless of how hard it may be at first. I also see you're back on Mafia. Awesome!

[Mystical]

Whats this mafia i keep hearing about? Anyone care to give me a rundown?

[Mystical]

My break ended early along with my Mafia ban

Haha I came in here to say how I wished it was the 12th already! Whatever excitement I had at you returning has been dashed to little bts, however.

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I simply agreed with Shell, reiterated my own points about the posts I have seen, kept it short and to the point and your response is to dish out an angry wall of hate, telling me how full of shit I am among other things?

There was no hate

Seemed hateful to me. You flipfucked out.

You have gone on and on and on and on about how you can handle honesty and it's what you want from others.  Apparently not.

Oh it is absolutely what I want. I'm glad that you're honest with me

I... don't believe you.
And will in future implement a hands off approach.

The post contained in hide tags is precisely why, on numerous occasions, I have had to bite my tongue and refrain from commenting, because god forbid something be said that doesn't fall in line with your views. Proof is in the fact that this thread had to be split and another thread had to be closed because of your inability to let shit go. You don't want honesty. You don't want discussion. You want everything sugarcoated so your precious little feelings don't get hurt all the while, you want to be able to say whatever the fuck you want, without anyone else objecting or disagreeing with you.

I do want honesty and you don't have to bite your tongue when we disagree or I get emotional

I think you skipped the apology part and went straight to cuddling. Girls don't work like that.

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JFC. If you can dish it out, then you sure as hell should be adult enough to be able to take it when it gets served right back at you without resorting to making dozens of posts across other threads about how your feelings are hurt.

Yeah I am adult enough to take it and I can I can also make posts about my feelings being hurt when they're hurt.

Your unrepentance reiterates my future "hands off" approach. 

Was this harsh? Hell no and at this point, I don't fucking care if you think it is. It pales in comparison to the shit you threw at me.

I personally think that you were harsher than me. But that is absolutely fine and we can disagree on that no problem

Since you're an adult and can take it? I personally think you're full of shit. But that is absolutely fine and we can disagree on that no problem

If I've learned anything from what happened to me a month or so ago, it's that people are going to say whatever the hell they want to say here. And I needed to be okay with that because that particular person isn't in charge of my life. I am. No one else but me can make me feel a certain way and I needed to own that and just let that shit go. And that is the difference between you and me. You can't let shit go. I can. And have. You dont see me even so much as responding to the person i had issues with. I simply avoid their posts and go on with my day. You like to just keep poking the sleeping bear until it's had just enough to let you have it, then you wanna start in with all sorts of excuses for why you say the things you do, all the while seeking validation and reassurance from whomever will give it to you.

I'm glad that you have learned a lesson that is helpful to you  

Wish you could say the same.  

This is a god damned internet forum where people are free to say what they please without having to endure endless posts of attention seeking behavior from someone who is supposed to be an adult.

When I say that regardless of whether it hurts my feelings or not I still want honesty anyway I really do mean that regardless of whether it hurts my feelings or not I still want honesty anyway. 

Well honestly your entire post to Nymphadora was passive aggressive frippery.

And I'm tired of having to choose my words carefully for you so that you don't start 

playing the 'woe is me' game. Get help.

When you read my posts I think it's best that you either go by the words in my posts instead of how it comes across to you or just skip my posts altogether

I'll probably just skip your posts altogether. Honestly.

[Edwardo Piet]

Oh absolutely no hate my end, Luckie.

I think Judi was a lot harsher than me. I didn't call anyone childish or say they were playing the victim or guilt-tripping and I didn't say anyone here was full of shit. I expressed my feelings and said I still want to hear what people have to say regardless of how it makes me feel. I said I thought something was bullshit when I thought it was bullshit. I didn't get personal. I could have been more polite but I still think I was more polite and less harsh than Judi because the whole point is that calling an opinion bullshit is nothing personal and anyone can say the same to me too.

You don't believe that I want honesty? That's a shame.

It's a waste of time for me to say things if I'm told I'm saying the exact opposite even after I say that that's not what I said.

This definitely applies to everyone:

When you read my posts I think it's best that you either go by the words in my posts instead of how it comes across to you or just skip my posts altogether

So Luckie, I hope you're not serious when you say you don't believe that I can take honesty.

If my words aren't being read and I'm said to be saying what I'm not saying then I'm obviously wasting my time explaining all the time.

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If I'm not believed then I'm definitely without a doubt not the one with the problem [emoji106]

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Haha I came in here to say how I wished it was the 12th already! Whatever excitement I had at you returning has been dashed to little bts, however.

I don't understand why or how

[Joods]

Your unrepentance reiterates my future "hands off" approach.

Well honestly your entire post to Nymphadora was passive aggressive frippery.
I'll probably just skip your posts altogether. Honestly.

I'm glad I wasn't the only one who saw that. I didn't want to call it out though because, no doubt, it would have been met with all sorts of wall salad.