I feel guilty not reconciling after she apologized but realistically we are oil and water and what is the point of two people straining to compromise and pissing each other off? She needs compatible people to be friends with ie other Christians who don't like curse words.

(November 26, 2024 at 6:08 pm)syntheticadrenaline Wrote: I feel guilty not reconciling after she apologized but realistically we are oil and water and what is the point of two people straining to compromise and pissing each other off? She needs compatible people to be friends with ie other Christians who don't like curse words.

She sounds pretty demanding and is making any sort of "friendship" one way.  It's her way or the highway.  I am sure there are nicer people out there to play chess with.  It's perfectly fine for you to define some boundaries.

Easy.

Reconcile, and then swear, curse, and blaspheme around her.

"I accept your goddamned apology." Solved, one way or the other.

I'm honestly just enjoying the peace. I feel a bit guilty but mostly just happy and stress-free.

(November 26, 2024 at 7:36 pm)arewethereyet Wrote:

(November 26, 2024 at 6:08 pm)syntheticadrenaline Wrote: I feel guilty not reconciling after she apologized but realistically we are oil and water and what is the point of two people straining to compromise and pissing each other off? She needs compatible people to be friends with ie other Christians who don't like curse words.

She sounds pretty demanding and is making any sort of "friendship" one way.  It's her way or the highway.  I am sure there are nicer people out there to play chess with.  It's perfectly fine for you to define some boundaries.

I could use a demanding friend....

I still feel a bit bad for not being kinder about telling her I didn't want to reconcile. I also do bear some responsibility for not speaking up earlier.

The problem was it never occurred to me that I had a right to 'speak up'. Her criticisms of me all made sense in isolation. She didn't want to see my speed chess games; fair enough. Blunders are probably stressful to look at. I know it's not that rare to feel stress when watching others play chess because they relate to the frustration of making a blunder. She also found it a bit much when I talked about my writing; also fair enough. My zombie series is dark. At the time I was writing a fairly grim scene where someone impaled himself on a rusty fence and tore his inferior vena cava. No one wants to hear about that after a long stressful day.

On the other hand...I think us trying to reconcile is like trying to mix oil and water. She's religious. I'm a proud atheist and nihilist. She's prim and proper and I'm a potty mouth. Why drive us both nuts straining to compromise?

Wait sorry I forgot I already shared those things. Did not mean to be annoying by repeating myself.

I wish I could fart on a Christian whenever I wanted.

(Yesterday at 7:04 am)Ahriman Wrote: I wish I could fart on a Christian whenever I wanted.

Farting is a pretty reasonable response to religious nonsense. People should do it more often.