Do you think someone would pay you for sex?

[Redbeard The Pink]

You get paid to flirt?

ETA: This was @ Redbeard

Sometimes. My day job is being a food server, and flirting tends to lend more mileage to the ladies than it does to the men in that field. I have definitely buttered a tip or two by flirting with someone's mother/grandmother, though. In a classy and subtle sense, mind you, but it has happened.

[Thumpalumpacus]

My market value would be so low that I'd be better off spending the time more productively.

[downbeatplumb]

If you're unwilling to have sex with a person for whatever reason, but you might be swayed by a large some of money, do you really think that someone would pay you to have sex with them? If I were a billionaire I'd never pay someone for sex because having sex with someone who doesn't want to or doesn't like to have sex with me is a major turn off.

I once put my profile on a dating site to see what sort of person would like me if my wife decided she no longer liked me. All men, Even though I said I was straight on the profile.

[Cyberman]

Haha. I do remember the exact scene when I lost my virginity. I kind of wish I didn't.

I remember mine as well. Sunday March 25th, 2001. I wad 31. Sam and I had been together about three weeks and it genuinely never crossed my mind to do anything past kissing. Probably because I didn't try it on like a typical bloke might, she made the first move on me, promising that the weekend was going to be amazing.

Saturday came around and I was starting to fight off a cold, which wouldn't have been a problem at that stage. But that evening got spoiled after her bag and phone got stolen and we had to spend hours in Dudley police station. So she said she'd come to my parents' house for Sunday dinner the next day, while everyone was out for the day and we had the place to ourselves. Unfortunately by that point my body said "fuck you, you're having this cold whether you like it or not". So although I wasn't laid up, and my first sex was still great (despite being the first and only time I wore a condom), it wasn't as fantastic as repeated and vigorous practice would make it become.

As my dad drove her back home later - much later - she and I had a whispered conversation about it on the back seat, and while she couldn't believe it was my first time, she was so proud of having a virgin.

I also remember the very last time we did it. Wednesday May 12th 2010. But I won't go into that just now. Let's just say we were so in tune by then.

[robvalue]

That's an amazing story, thank you

I can always tell from your words just how much you love her.

[The Valkyrie]

Now you're pushing it!

Jut kidding matey.... At my age, I couldn't be firm if I wanted to!

Pushing rope?

[Divinity]

Haha. I do remember the exact scene when I lost my virginity. I kind of wish I didn't.

I wish I could forget my first time.  I was way too young, too drunk, and it was an unpleasant experience.  I almost never wanted to have sex again after that.  Took me a while to actually like sex.  I mean I had it, but only because I thought that was what you were 'supposed to do'.  I was pretty fucking stupid.  Or maybe I was pretty and fucked stupidly.

[emjay]

The closest I've come to prostitution was when, at the age of about 18, I had gay sex in exchange for a room, which never actually materialised... the guy taunting me by saying he had given it to another 'young lad' (and god knows what he had to do for it). The guy was a creep - old, ugly, smelly - and the experience was horrible. That was my first, and last, experience of anal sex. It wasn't as bad as it could have been because he wanted me on top, but it was still horrible and it put me off anal sex for life.

Back then I attracted a lot of creeps because I had very low confidence and self-esteem and wouldn't say boo to a goose. I was - and probably still am - a controller's wet dream because I couldn't say no and felt I owed to it to them for even the slightest kindness, like giving me a can of coke. I'm still the same person; shy, socially awkward, naive, and dependent but what's changed is I no longer put myself in situations where I can be used like that. If I did it would probably be a case of 'old habits die hard' but I like to think I have a lot more psychological awareness than I did back then, and would recognise the patterns earlier... when to run for the hills.

So as to the current questions... would I have sex for money? Only conditionally... only if I had some say over what was allowed... and probably not actual sex... and only if it was with someone I found at least vaguely attractive. But not like before... not with someone who made me want to puke no matter how much they offered. And as to whether anyone would want to pay me for sex, I'd take it as a compliment if they did but only if I knew they weren't a controller. I'm alright looking and thankfully my self-image in that regard is a lot more realistic than it used to be... I'm sure there are people out there who would fancy me just as I'm sure there are for everyone. But no, I'm not 'awesome' so controllers aside I don't think there'd be anyone so besotted with me to want to pay for it.

[Losty]

I'm not 'awesome'

Lies

[emjay]

I'm not 'awesome'

Lies

Erm, thank you