My mom is dying, going to need an ear.

[Cod]

At any rate I am admiring your Mom more than you. It's something you have to let go. Being a dad, I fear more for my daughter's life than mine. Balance yourself.

Come on man, some people take a bit of time to come to terms with loss, some people never do, everyone's different, and we know it's final don't we.

[Brian37]

At any rate I am admiring your Mom more than you. It's something you have to let go. Being a dad, I fear more for my daughter's life than mine. Balance yourself.

Come on man, some people take a bit of time to come to terms with loss, some people never do, everyone's different, and we know it's final don't we.

I think there is a misunderstanding here.

My mom would not want me blathering with a gun to my head and that is NOT what I am doing. 

I HAVE come to terms with her death. But that does not mean you get over it, it just means you remember and cope and move on.



Death happens to everyone, nobody can escape it. But it is ok to talk about it and remember and talk about it. I WILL talk about her as long as I live, and miss her as long as I live. I don't think that makes me suicidal one bit.

Bittersweet is not the same as "woe is me" or "nobody knows what I am going through."

It just means reflecting on what we had is a comfort to me.

 Look at my last post. I POSTED that my mom would be doing this   . Knowing her team won a division game. I didn't say that to make anyone depressed but to reflect.

[Abaddon_ire]

I think there is a misunderstanding here.

My mom would not want me blathering with a gun to my head and that is NOT what I am doing. 

I HAVE come to terms with her death. But that does not mean you get over it, it just means you remember and cope and move on.

Sure. It was my privilege to see my mother and my father off this mortal coil. Nobody had any illusions, but we did have that "magic moment" of outright honesty before both passed.

Death happens to everyone, nobody can escape it. But it is ok to talk about it and remember and talk about it. I WILL talk about her as long as I live, and miss her as long as I live. I don't think that makes me suicidal one bit.

Absolutely. My one regret is that my siblings missed that. Not their fault, we are geographically diverse, but I lived with my father for a time. I cannot share that experience.

Bittersweet is not the same as "woe is me" or "nobody knows what I am going through."

One can if one choses to do so.

It just means reflecting on what we had is a comfort to me.

Pick one. A tight family relationship? Or a deity that insists that none such exists?

Look at my last post. I POSTED that my mom would be doing this   . Knowing her team won a division game. I didn't say that to make anyone depressed but to reflect.

Are you not most fortunate that your mother still lives? Does that not place you as a youth?

[Brian37]

I think there is a misunderstanding here.

My mom would not want me blathering with a gun to my head and that is NOT what I am doing. 

I HAVE come to terms with her death. But that does not mean you get over it, it just means you remember and cope and move on.

Sure. It was my privilege to see my mother and my father off this mortal coil. Nobody had any illusions, but we did have that "magic moment" of outright honesty before both passed.

Death happens to everyone, nobody can escape it. But it is ok to talk about it and remember and talk about it. I WILL talk about her as long as I live, and miss her as long as I live. I don't think that makes me suicidal one bit.

Absolutely. My one regret is that my siblings missed that. Not their fault, we are geographically diverse, but I lived with my father for a time. I cannot share that experience.

Bittersweet is not the same as "woe is me" or "nobody knows what I am going through."

One can if one choses to do so.

It just means reflecting on what we had is a comfort to me.

Pick one. A tight family relationship? Or a deity that insists that none such exists?

Look at my last post. I POSTED that my mom would be doing this   . Knowing her team won a division game. I didn't say that to make anyone depressed but to reflect.

Are you not most fortunate that your mother still lives? Does that not place you as a youth?

None of what you posted made sense. Especially the last comment. 

I AM fortunate that I had time with her. And I will keep talking about her.

[Abaddon_ire]

None of what you posted made sense. Especially the last comment. 

I AM fortunate that I had time with her. And I will keep talking about her.

And there you go. I have had the very same experience with mom and dad now long dead.  If you want to launch yourself on that trajectory, well, that is on you. I offered sympathy given similar experience and you reject that. 

Off you go with that. I have no idea why it might be that most will experience the death of their parents is somehow offensive to you.

[Cod]

None of what you posted made sense. Especially the last comment. 

I AM fortunate that I had time with her. And I will keep talking about her.

And there you go. I have had the very same experience with mom and dad now long dead.  If you want to launch yourself on that trajectory, well, that is on you. I offered sympathy given similar experience and you reject that. 

Off you go with that. I have no idea why it might be that most will experience the death of their parents is somehow offensive to you.

[Brian37]

None of what you posted made sense. Especially the last comment. 

I AM fortunate that I had time with her. And I will keep talking about her.

And there you go. I have had the very same experience with mom and dad now long dead.  If you want to launch yourself on that trajectory, well, that is on you. I offered sympathy given similar experience and you reject that. 

Off you go with that. I have no idea why it might be that most will experience the death of their parents is somehow offensive to you.

This MY therapy thread. It is also something others can identify with having gone through the same thing. It is not here for debate. I am well aware everyone will experience death of a loved one or friend at some point.

[Catholic_Lady]

None of what you posted made sense. Especially the last comment. 

I AM fortunate that I had time with her. And I will keep talking about her.

And there you go. I have had the very same experience with mom and dad now long dead.  If you want to launch yourself on that trajectory, well, that is on you. I offered sympathy given similar experience and you reject that. 

Off you go with that. I have no idea why it might be that most will experience the death of their parents is somehow offensive to you.

Brian lost his mom less than a year ago. This is his therapy thread for talking about her. Either come in here and offer kind words and support, or steer clear. I'm not sure why you're coming in here and giving him shit.

[Brian37]

And there you go. I have had the very same experience with mom and dad now long dead.  If you want to launch yourself on that trajectory, well, that is on you. I offered sympathy given similar experience and you reject that. 

Off you go with that. I have no idea why it might be that most will experience the death of their parents is somehow offensive to you.

Brian lost his mom less than a year ago. This is his therapy thread for talking about her. Either come in here and offer kind words and support, or steer clear. I'm not sure why you're coming in here and giving him shit.

If one wants to start a thread about death, it should be done elsewhere. I think everyone knows I can handle the heat, but this simply isn't the thread for that. It is a memorial/therapy thread. We can take each other on in another thread if one wants to debate how death plays into our existence. 

Thanks for your support CL. Conversely it is also why I took it easy on you when you lost your baby. Some situations are not boxing rings.

[Abaddon_ire]

Brian lost his mom less than a year ago. This is his therapy thread for talking about her. Either come in here and offer kind words and support, or steer clear. I'm not sure why you're coming in here and giving him shit.

If one wants to start a thread about death, it should be done elsewhere. I think everyone knows I can handle the heat, but this simply isn't the thread for that. It is a memorial/therapy thread. We can take each other on in another thread if one wants to debate how death plays into our existence. 

Thanks for your support CL. Conversely it is also why I took it easy on you when you lost your baby. Some situations are not boxing rings.

Well in that case, it is relatively fresh so my apologies. Having been there, it does take a considerable time to get over it.