What are your values?

[The Grand Nudger]

It's always better when babybashing is an optional upgrade rather than a requirement.  Otherwise it would feel like a job..and that would take all the fun out if it.

[Brian37]

I got the idea for this thread from Pool's recent thread.

Make a list of some of the more important values you strive to live your life by.

As an example, here are a few things on a short list:

Respect all people
Be humble
Live a moral life
Be generous
Don't be self righteous
Forgive others

Yours?

I hate the word "respect". I never use it. It far too often gets used to mean, "Know your place" and or "don't bruise my ego". It is far to often used to avoid scrutiny of what one claims.

I say "value" and I most certainly value human rights, but claims as ideas do not deserve a pedestal never to be challenged.

So here is my list.

1. Value human rights, but you dont have to value bad claims.
2. I agree, be humble, humans are not the center of the planet or universe, not even me.
3. "Live a moral life", I wouldn't put it like that considering 7 billion humans have different ideas of what that means and unfortunately base that on religion which in turn pits religion against religion, and sect vs sect even under the same religion.

3. <---- 3 ^^^^^^ To me would be put in the following, " Seek non violence and know ultimately we are not a separate species."

4. Be generous, YES YES YES.... When you can sure, but don't go broke because then you wont be able to help yourself.

5. Don't be self righteous? Ok sure, but still a huge difference between being  a selfish narcissist which makes one an asshole, and telling someone a fact. Facts are worth defending.

5....... ^^^^^ It is NOT for example, "self righteous" to say the earth is a globe. It is not "self righteous" to say evolution is a FACT. 

I do think most humans are good, or at least want to think they are doing good, but that does not mean I have to agree that our behaviors are a result of a sky hero vs a ground villain. Nor do I think any religion or holy writing invented human behaviors, good or bad.

6. "Forgive" um yes and no. Yes when you want to, but no if you don't want to. Nobody has the right to tell me whom to forgive or not to forgive. I chose whom I have in my life. Now that does not mean I WANT revenge on those who hurt me, it just means if I want to part company and never have contact with them again, that is my choice. 

EXAMPLE, if someone murdered my sisters NO, I would not forgive them and would want them arrested, nor would I want further contact with them. But no, I would not want revenge because that doesn't mean anything. But for minor things, like a harsh word, sure, with friends and family we do do that. But no, I don't forgive bullies or physical abuse.

[Whateverist]

1.  Resist the deadening hand of primitive mythology.

I don't find myself tempted to adopt any primitive mythologies but if you know you're susceptible this is important!

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J/k .. We need to remain vigilant against the efforts of the stupid majority to legislate their religious beliefs into law.

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[brewer]

I'll have to check Fridays market close.

[Whateverist]

Do things I like doing.
Avoid doing things I don't like doing.

Wait a minute, I'd better write this down.

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I find it very difficult to be comprehensive about values.  I don't find it useful to lay them out as directives to myself as most are just a list of what I'm drawn to do anyway.  But these two are worth the effort to keep in mind.

Always be open to discovering what you think and feel today.  Share some of that with others.  Their feedback can help.

Grant autonomy to others.  They are entitled to disagree with me and to be motivated toward different ends.  Try to understand what moves them and why.

[Mermaid]

Respect other people, animals, myself. (I don't always get that last one right).
A beginner's mind will always serve a person well. We never stop learning.
Do not judge others based on my own standards and priorities. That's their business and none of mine. 


I think that covers it.

[Nay_Sayer]

My values are X=177cm Y=82cm Z=83cm

[notimportant1234]

So my values are:
Empathy
Honesty
Curiosity
Beeing humble
Human interaction ( people in general)

[GrandizerII]

My values are X=177cm Y=82cm Z=83cm

Man, you are short.

[Nay_Sayer]

My values are X=177cm Y=82cm Z=83cm

Man, you are short.

I may have mixed length and width;  5'8  This is why I got a B- in maths