Are people normally this confussing when you are asking them out?

[CapnAwesome]

I'd normally agree, if she flat out rejected him. But she said "I'll have to think about it" that automatically leaves the door open. I think "hey, have you given going out with me any more thought?" is appropriate. Then you can get a more clear answer.

Btw, not that this is relevant to this case, but in many countries a man is expected to ask a girl out multiple times before she says yes.

She is letting him down easy. I've done it myself many times. Saying no is very hard.

I get that, but I bet you never said "I'll think about it" to let someone down easy cause that leaves the option open. Plus she's right about it being difficult to adjust after long trips to the third world. Dating just seems weird after that.

I'm just as inclined to think that she's just being honest. Plus, nothing to lose from asking one more time.

[pocaracas]

Really? I like light blue eyes the best. But Basically any color is better than brown imho.

I prefer green, for some reason...

[Losty]

Really? I like light blue eyes the best. But Basically any color is better than brown imho.

I mean, eyes aren’t everything but brown eyes are my favorite to look at.

[brewer]

OP: I guess you're past the point of being able to tell her about your suitcase full-o-fun.

[A Theist]

I ask a friend of mine out on a date she says she will have to think about it because she recently returned from a year long service project and is having difficulty adjusting. Now, I think she is just not that interested. I have consulted others and they have told me that I am not entitled to know the reason why. Even though i think it's fair if she would just tell me straight up she isn't interested. I mean I have tried being persistent. I have talked to her about it twice, and she throws out the same response. I don't want to harass her, but part of me thinks that she should just be straight up and tell me I'm not interested. Would it be too much for me to say this? I mean it's not going to hurt my feelings if she does. I would also let her know that too.

Also, as someone who is normally shy and constantly being told that's my problem this is a big deal for me. I'm actually trying to grow some balls and stick up for myself, don't women like that?



I trust your wisdom on this. I'm not trying to be a dick either.

I would give it up, Kemosabe. I agree with the others on this. I don't think she's interested and if you keep persisting and aggravating her she's going to tell you a whole lot more than, 'she's just not interested'. Take it from a guy who's heard, "Hell no! Not on your best night!", from women more times than I care to remember. Then again, perhaps if I were sober at the time when I asked them out and not have spilled my beer all over them and changed my approach from, "Hey beaudacious babe! I seem to have lost my phone number. Can I have yours?", to something else, maybe I would have been a little more successful.

[Catholic_Lady]

Really? I like light blue eyes the best. But Basically any color is better than brown imho.

I prefer green, for some reason...

I like the contrast between light blue eyes and chestnut brown hair. Brown and blue are kind of opposites on the color wheel, so it really makes both features stand out.

[Joods]

My eyes are 75% green and 25% brown.

[WinterHold]

Hhahahahahahhahahahahhahahhahahha this is the truth and the answer xD

[Losty]

I prefer green, for some reason...  

I like the contrast between light blue eyes and chestnut brown hair. Brown and blue are kind of opposites on the color wheel, so it really makes both features stand out.

Blue eyes really do go well with dark hair

[Kernel Sohcahtoa]

I ask a friend of mine out on a date she says she will have to think about it because she recently returned from a year long service project and is having difficulty adjusting. Now, I think she is just not that interested. I have consulted others and they have told me that I am not entitled to know the reason why. Even though i think it's fair if she would just tell me straight up she isn't interested. I mean I have tried being persistent. I have talked to her about it twice, and she throws out the same response. I don't want to harass her, but part of me thinks that she should just be straight up and tell me I'm not interested. Would it be too much for me to say this? I mean it's not going to hurt my feelings if she does. I would also let her know that too.

Also, as someone who is normally shy and constantly being told that's my problem this is a big deal for me. I'm actually trying to grow some balls and stick up for myself, don't women like that?



I trust your wisdom on this. I'm not trying to be a dick either.

IMO, as a man, if one is willing to initiate interactions with women for the sole purpose of asking them out, then that individual needs to make peace with the fact that there will be rejections and that they'll need to be shrugged off accordingly and not taken personally.  From my vantage point, if I lived in a culture where women primarily initiated contact with men due to physical attraction/romantic interest, then it seems likely that I'd reject a certain percentage of those advances based on personality, compatibility, interests, etc.  Hence, IMO, it seems reasonable to extend this same understanding and courtesy to those women who'd reject me, as their rejections probably boil down to personal tastes/interests, which is something that I cannot control, nor is it something that I should lose confidence over. 

That said, I wish you well with your romantic endeavors, sir.