Are you okay with your (or your partner's) vajayjay?

[MTL]

This is quite the straw-man here. Finding gay sex repulsive inside oneself is not nearly the same as refusing to be in the same room with a gay person. Are you reading what I'm reading? So far as I can see, no one has said they wouldn't share the same space with a gay person. Perhaps you should read what is actually being written in this discussion.

I don't look on gay sex as a "threat" to me, either. But I sure as hell don't want it. Why are my desires -- and my repulsions -- anybody's business, when I already understand that freedom for all to be who they wish is paramount? When I've already gone to the mat for equal rights? My feelings are my own -- but "threatened" isn't one of them.

I've asked myself why I find gay sex repulsive for my own personal circumstances. I don't owe you any answers (although I've given a couple, which you seem to have ignored), so long as I don't push my views on you.

If someone wants to call me a bigot because of that, great, have at it.  I know myself, and I know they're wrong about me.

Since I agree with MTL, I should clarify that I don't think being repulsed by homosexuality (inside) makes anyone a bigot.  Not at all.  All that matters is how we treat each other and I know you to be a guy who gives everyone a gracious greeting and after that "makes change in the coin tendered".  You're no bigot.  

But I believe there is something desirable about questioning the inner yucky.  It is like when you do yoga and discover that there are muscle groups which are opposing your intentions and you learn to relax them.  I think the (inner) yucky feeling toward gayness is like an inner tension which serves no function, a cultural relic that gives you nothing.  You're better off without it.  The icky feeling isn't you.  It is just cultural overlay.

And I THINK that is at the core of what Rocket was originally saying; that the world would be a better place if everyone at least tried to nudge themselves to confront irrational knee-jerk reactions to stuff that is probably harmless.

HOWEVER, having been chastised by another user, for, amongst other things, failing to notice some of his comments,
and having read back to gather in said comments,

I feel quite bad for an insensitivity on my part.

It's fine to wish that people would more frequently endeavor to overcome their own limitations;
but it is pretty callous to say that to someone who has a boundary they are not willing to stretch
due to a past abuse.

If I'd noticed that the first time, I might have held my tongue, at least a bit.

Especially when the abused party has not allowed their bad experience to make them into a bad, bigoted person.

That's says a lot for their character.