I think that's a bullshit video. The guy doesn't speak for all Muslims and he quoted hadiths (or speeches of Muhammad that were collected and written down 200 years after his death) that doesn't specifically say that raping is OK. That's his own interpretation and I don't agree with it. Why? Because I'm very sure that rape is a crime and a sin in Islam. The religion has a strict rule against rape and the punishment for such behavior can range from 100 lashes (or X number of lashes) as a minimum punishment to even a death sentence.
Also, there are many verses in the Quran which emphasize the importance of treating one's wife with respect and to be patient with them. Example: "O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should you treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the dowry you have given them - except when they have become guilty of open lewdness. On the contrary, live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike something and God will bring about through it a great deal of good." [Surah 4:19]
Also, there are many verses in the Quran which emphasize the importance of treating one's wife with respect and to be patient with them. Example: "O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should you treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the dowry you have given them - except when they have become guilty of open lewdness. On the contrary, live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike something and God will bring about through it a great deal of good." [Surah 4:19]
