(October 7, 2015 at 12:23 pm)Whateverist the White Wrote:(October 7, 2015 at 4:48 am)Parkers Tan Wrote: This is quite the straw-man here. Finding gay sex repulsive inside oneself is not nearly the same as refusing to be in the same room with a gay person. Are you reading what I'm reading? So far as I can see, no one has said they wouldn't share the same space with a gay person. Perhaps you should read what is actually being written in this discussion.
I don't look on gay sex as a "threat" to me, either. But I sure as hell don't want it. Why are my desires -- and my repulsions -- anybody's business, when I already understand that freedom for all to be who they wish is paramount? When I've already gone to the mat for equal rights? My feelings are my own -- but "threatened" isn't one of them.
I've asked myself why I find gay sex repulsive for my own personal circumstances. I don't owe you any answers (although I've given a couple, which you seem to have ignored), so long as I don't push my views on you.
If someone wants to call me a bigot because of that, great, have at it. I know myself, and I know they're wrong about me.
Since I agree with MTL, I should clarify that I don't think being repulsed by homosexuality (inside) makes anyone a bigot. Not at all. All that matters is how we treat each other and I know you to be a guy who gives everyone a gracious greeting and after that "makes change in the coin tendered". You're no bigot.
But I believe there is something desirable about questioning the inner yucky. It is like when you do yoga and discover that there are muscle groups which are opposing your intentions and you learn to relax them. I think the (inner) yucky feeling toward gayness is like an inner tension which serves no function, a cultural relic that gives you nothing. You're better off without it. The icky feeling isn't you. It is just cultural overlay.
Well, as I said earlier, part of it is rooted in traumatic experience, although there was certainly social programming in play when I was younger. I addressed that for myself when I was 17; my best friend came out to me. After that, I recognized the sexual undertones of our wrestling (we'd have an occasional go at one another), and that's when I came to my understanding of human sexuality as being on a continuum.
I don't embrace my repulsion, and no, I didn't really challenge it until managing the adult video store and being exposed to viewing gay sex. I learnt to be objective about it in others. That's why I said I personally find repulsive ... it is only when I think about my partaking in it that that feeling arises in me.
