(October 27, 2016 at 5:51 pm)mlmooney89 Wrote:(October 26, 2016 at 9:02 pm)Losty Wrote: I still don't understand how this is relevant to the topic at hand. You see a discussion involving something highly upsetting for you and you proceed to throw your emotions at it. It makes it impossible to discuss the issue. We are not talking about child abuse. We aren't talking about a situation in which a child has reported abuse. We aren't suggesting allowing pedophiles to hang out with kids.
We are talking about human beings here. Who happen to be sick. Who haven't done anything wrong.
Being a child molestor doesn't even make someone a pedophile. Raping a kid doesn't even make someone a pedophile. Raping a man doesn't make a male rapist gay. Raping an old lady doesn't make someone whatever the term is for a person who is attracted to old people. Rape is almost never about sexual attraction and gratification. Rape is about power and control. Rapists dont typically pick their victims based on who they think is hottest. They pick their victims based on who they can get away with raping. I have no idea why being a pedophile would make someone any more likely to rape a kid than being a heterosexual would make you likely to rape a man if you couldn't get any to have sex with you. Peoples sexual desires are not the deciding factor in whether or not they're a rapist. If this logic doesn't apply in any other situation why would it apply here? It makes no sense.
It really does make sense and my input is VERY relative.
I'm saying that just because they SEEM trustworthy does NOT make them trustworthy. If they are having thoughts about having sex with children this is far beyond just helping a friend. If they are THAT sick in the head trust as a friend goes out the window. I don't care how great they seem.
But I'm not saying you should consider them trust worthy. Although I don't agree that it makes sense to assume anyone who has sexual desires for children is a rapist.
Doesn't matter really if we agree on that. I would never trust a pedophile with my kids either. It doesn't stop me from understanding that they have no control over their thoughts. It doesn't stop me from being a good friend to them and saying "hey...it's not your fault you feel this way but you really need to see a psychiatrist and find out what you can do to fix it because it's not ok to want that."
